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| Fri, 03-12-2004 - 10:08pm |
Just a quick "male behavior" question for you. The situation... we have been dating for about 2 months, see each other usually at least once a week (we both have very busy schedules) and generally talk or IM or a few minutes everyday. When we do see each other, we stay at each other's house. Neither of us are sleeping with anyone else, this is known, and agreed to, by both parties. But we have not had the "exclusive" or "where is this going" chat yet.
So here is my question. His profile is still up on a personals site, but it's not searchable, meaning you can only see it if you search by his username. I think it's ok it's still up (although I wish it wasn't, lol), after all we are not exclusive yet. Just wondering why it wouldn't be completely searchable? Seems to me it would either not be up at all, or 100% searchable if he were "really" looking for someone. Everyone knows that it's usually 10 guys to every 1 girl on there. Oh, he can't see that I have looked at his profile, nor that I know it's still up. I don't have any profiles up.
I'm wondering if this is all for my benefit, to keep me "grounded", to show that he supposedly isn't serious about me, when he actually is? This is the same guy who still has all the little gifts I've given him all over his house. I seriously doubt there are other girls coming over with dried flowers and cards that I've given him on display ;)
Anyone have any thoughts on what to do? Well other than that he may be bipolar ;) (just a joke, not to offend anyone)

Anyway, I met someone online and pretty much took my ad down within a couple weeks. I had gone on dates with so many people that were wrong for me, and this guy was great... and I decided for myself that if it didn't work out I was going to take a break from dating. So it made sense for me to take it down. I mentioned to him I took it down, but added that I could always put it back up later (I didn't want to imply I was already wanting a committment from him).
His took a couple months to come down. I teased him about it a couple times but then let it go. I guess the relationship had to get to some certain point for him to be comfortable and not want to be checking that ad mail box anymore.
So my advice is be patient. If you have the "where is the relationship going" conversation, and it's really going somewhere, that might be the time he will take it down. Wait a week or so after that conversation and then mention it if it is still bugging you.
Love Keegan24