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Moving in
| Wed, 07-21-2004 - 1:00am |
I've bee dating this guy for about 5 months now, and I spend every weekend at his place...go over Friday night come home Monday morning. My lease is ending in October, and I can't help thinking that I want to move in with him (I will be moving out of this apartment regardless of whether I move in with him). I feel like this is somthing that could work, but am a little nervous that it would be too soon. I was just wondering what the normal timeline is for couples, when it comes to when they usually move-in together.
As a side note, I have never lived with a boyfriend before...he has lived with only one girlfriend to date (he is a bit older than me).
Any advice? Thanks
~Dizzy

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I just wouldn't rush into moving in with anyone. Especially since HE wouldn't be changing anything for YOU, only YOU for HIM.
well, I do do all the driving, and he does not compensate directly for the gas, but he usually pays for the other thing we do. Basically, when my dad died he left me enough money to get completely through undergrad and graduate school without having to work, so I could concentrate solely on my studies....gas is included in my living expenses, but I don't get any extra spending money for movies and the like. I just feel like that since he has to pay for everything when we go out, the least I could do is pay for the transportation, which ends up being a lot less then what he covers. Although he just finished saving to get a new truck, and I know he'll want to drive (men lol) which would make me feel like I contribute nothing (financially), I don't much like the feeling of being a free-loader. :(
As for the animals, I do feel bad about doing it so often, but my kitties don't seem to mind, and are very happy and healthy....and I'm sure my cold-blooded friends don't even notice. Also, since it's summer, I'm not in class....so I'm pretty much home spoiling my pets 24hrs a day for the remainder of the week. :D
Most likely we won't move in together because of my doubts, but I just want to make sure I don't give up something thst could possibly be best thing to happen to me in a long time.
Thanks again all
~Dizzy
I would look for another place or resign a lease where you are if you can and go from there. If you and your guy do become more serious, then the two of you will want your own place most likely WITHOUT any roommates, right?
And about the paying for things... I would just make sure that the playing field is divided. You don't need to be keeping score of anything, but just pay attention to who is putting in more effort. If you are the one always calling, making plans, going over- then it's fine to say he pays for stuff but if he's not putting effort into anything else....
Good luck to you and figuring it all out.
BTW you don't happen to think that there is a connection between your father dying when you were young and dating an older man?
BB
As for moving in with him - it is probabaly not right RIGHT NOW. Get a short lease somewhere else, that could be extended for longer if needed. And re-evaluate the situation at that time. You aren't going to lose anything by not moving in with him right now. You could even find a place closer to your school, which is then closer to his place. Just have fun and go with the flow right now, and don't make the relationship progress faster than it needs to be.
Hope this helps
Just to clarify, I didn't go back to school, I never stopped lol. I'm in Grad school now to be a vet...eeeek! But it's great and is actually part of the reason we initially started talking about me moving in, cause when I'm in school...I don't have time to talk to him much during the week, and even though I keep my weekends as open as I can so I can see him, I don't always get to. We really like the idea of being able to see each other every night, even when my schedule starts to pick up again. (I have to say, though, that I'm sure gonna miss my summer breaks when I actually have to start working in the 'real world' lol)
Also, just for clarification, I never thought that I would be missing out on anything by not moving in with him now, but was talking more about not wanting to stop something amazing happening sooner because of fear...does that make sense? Anywho...I'll shut up now. :D lol C:
Thanks for all the help
~Dizzy
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