My bf fantasize to have sex with a man.

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Registered: 06-27-2004
My bf fantasize to have sex with a man.
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 11:10pm
I am dating my current bf for about 15month and things are going well most of the time and I am happy with him and hope we will get married in the future. I can see myself want to marry him. My bf likes to fantasize erotic stuff during our sex session. In the beginning I was really uncomfortable with it but he keeps assuring me that they are only fantasies and it gets him excited to share them with me. He also told me that he has no intention to act on them. So I was ok and didn't think it's too bad ideas to spicy up a little. Slowly I adapt the habits and start to talk about fantasies myself during our sex. I get excited when I see him get turned on with those fantasies. We would fantasize things like I am having sex with another man or if I was cheating on him with another friend of his, etc. I am very open minded person and welcome good ideals to spicy our sex life. As long as this is only a fantasy, I will be fine. I am not interested if that happens in the real life. He knew that well. This morning while we were having sex, he told me that he had a dream last night(I sometime don't know if it's truth at all since we are fantasizing and make up things) that he and another man were having sex with me and the other man also wanted to have sex with him and he said yes but then he realized what he just said quickly he turned around and said but I told him that I am straight and I was not interested. I knew I heard him the first time. I didn't get upset during the sex but latter on, I started to think about what do I got myself into. Can he be self-deny bi-sexual? I don't want to jump into any conclusions but I am very very scared if he is and I don't want to have anything to do with him. Am I worry too much? is this just a fantasy? in the real life he is very straight guy. Does guy fantasies about things like that now then - sharing his girlfriend with another man and then have sex with that man too? He also fantasized a similar thing like this several month ago and I joked and let it go. I didn't think I should be worrying but now I am really concerned and should I confront him?