my bf is upset with my temper

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Registered: 07-27-2004
my bf is upset with my temper
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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 1:08am
Hi all,

I'm dating with my boyfriend for 1 years plus, coming to two years. I always get angry with him over small matter. Take for example, there is one incident; I told him that i'll reach his home before 6pm, however i have yet to arrive at 6.10pm. Then he give me a call to ask where am I, however he did not sound happy over the phone, when I ask him if he was angry with me. He keeps on saying no. But as a matter of fact, it don't seems to me that he was not angry. Therefore when I'm alighting the bus, i run all the way to his home as not to keep him waiting for long though I know it won't help much, cause i was already late. When i reach he was busy attending to phone calls and sms, and its distured me to see that he was not concerned he didn't even say a word to me after i reached. Then i get angry and keep saying I wanna to go home. He defend himself by saying he was only attending to some phone calls and sms only and ask me what is the fuss about. Then he accused me for not controlling my temper always get angry over small matter. Actually i have promised him that i'll learn and try my very best to control myself, but always turned up to be unsuccessful. I'm very upset with myself, why am i behaving this way, why can't i control my temper? Is there any effective method to control my temper? Thk for yr time for reading and yr help.


Edited 8/30/2004 1:39 am ET ET by joalicia
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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 6:20am
Hey, sounds simaler to me, i get angry over small things, so does mah gf, so do alot of people. The important thing is to try n realize what your doing. Somtimes i let it out n say sorry like imatiatly after, that usaly works good, generaly im angry because im holding somthing bak about the way i think shes treating me or somthing like that. Its usaly better to let it out otherwize u will witness urself getting into a frenzy specialy if they dont know y ur upset. Othewize just stop n think about what ur doing when ya upset and decide weather or not its just.

BTW im onyl 17 so dont take my advice as being profesional
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Registered: 07-27-2004
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 6:26am
Dear new2luv,

Thk for telling me that everyone do get angry over small matter, it make me feel console. :p