My boyfriend is a single dad
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My boyfriend is a single dad
| Tue, 10-12-2004 - 6:49pm |
Hi!! I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a month, and a couple weeks ago he told me that he has two kids from a previous relationship. The kids are both with him (the mom is????). I am 24, he is 34.
My problem is that I really don't think I have a desire to have kids, but I am falling in love with this man! He is everything that I have looked for and wanted.
Anyone have advice if I should stick out the "perfect" relationship in spite of the children, or should I end it before it gets too far?
Thanks a lot...
Kase

At work, she met a man who was eight years older than her (out of her "age range") and, sure enough, he was divorced with two children.
They've been together for seven years now and married for two. :)
She fell in love with him - there was just no stopping it. And he fell in love with her. Things haven't been perfect between them - there have been a lot of conflicts. But they love eachother. And his kids love her and she loves them.
So my advice to you would be to keep seeing this man if you think you might love him. He could just be the one for you.
UNLESS, you are really bothered by the fact that he has children, and if the responsibility he has as a dad is not something you want to deal with (i.e., doing things "with the kids" a lot). But if your desire to not have children/be around children doesn't outweigh the feelings you have for him, then I would definitely see where it goes.
They're his kids - you're not responsible for raising them or anything, so don't worry about that right now. Just see what happens and where it goes.