My boyfriend wants a break?
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My boyfriend wants a break?
| Tue, 07-13-2004 - 2:58pm |
My boyfriend just told me that he wanted a break for a undisclosed amount of time. He says that we are two different people. I asked how. He replied saying that he like dogs and I like cats. I like some movies and he doesn't. I want to get married and have kids and he is not ready. By the way, I'm 23 and he is 20. He says that he doesn't think he loves me anymore. I feel lost without him and am willing to work through these issues. Lately he has become distant even though we spend almost every moment together. He said twice that work was more important. I know how we women analyze the situation. I read a book from Dr. John Gray that states that he needs time to himself. To find himself and love again. I'm afraid that he won't come back. We have together for 7 months. I need some advice please!!

The dialogue he has chosen to use:
He wants a break for an undisclosed amount of time
You are two different people
He isn't ready for a serious committment
He doesn't think he loves you anymore
I would let him have his space, I know you are hurting but he's 20 years old, he can't even legally drink of course he isn't ready for a lifelong committment. I really think he wants to end it completely, or at least that's what his words are saying, he may just be saying break because he knows you are not taking it well.
Step back from the situation right now, the more you push for you to stay together the quicker he'll run away. He may step away from you and realize he loves you VERY much, but being with you everyday still, is not having space so you need to let him go right now so he can find his way in life.
Sorry wish I had better news.
Don't allow him to string you along for an *undisclosed amount of time*. This sounds fishy to me. I wonder if he's met another girl and wants to play the field, yet keep you as a backup in case she doesn't work out. Guys have been known to do those kind of things, so be careful. NEVER settle to be the backup!
Either way, you need to tell him that you do not want to take a break, but that it's over. If he doesn't want to be with you because of all these differences, then you are going to move on to find someone who feels they are more compatable with you. Who knows, maybe if you aren't there waiting for him, he may smarten up and realize what he's going to lose!