my boyfriend wants to break up but i don

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Registered: 07-26-2004
my boyfriend wants to break up but i don
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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 9:12pm
well this is a question i have and i hope i can get an anwer from several people . my boyfriend,i should say ex boyfriend, recently broke up with me. he and i dated for a year and 4 months.we were very happy and were taking things slow. but recently he broke up with me because he says he only likes me as a friend and is not " in love with me" and i am in love with him. but then he says that in a few years things may change and we may end up together after all. i know he is not in love with me but i know he loves me and cares about me very much. he says that he'll miss me and doesnt want to break up but that it has to be done! do you understand him? i dont want to break up, our relationship was great. i think it works... but how do i make him realize that we shouldn't break it off and that he is making a mistake! i mean my friends and family all think he's making a mistake. how can i get my man back!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 11:07pm
You can't make him do anything. It was great for you, but something is not there for him and you can't wish it, beg it, demand it, cry for it to come back. YOu can only work on yourself, work out your grief and sadness over the end of this relationship. ((big hugs))
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 9:42am
You can't make someone do something they don't want to do. Its just best to move on with your life, be happy you had a good relationship in your eyes and try to move on the best you can.

He obviously does not agree with you about the relationship or he wouldn't have broken up with you. You have to respect his wishes and try to move on.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 12:17pm
You cannot make him take you back. He has made his choice, and whether you agree with it or not, it's done. The best you can do now is remember the good times and move on. He says that you two may be right for each other in a few years? Maybe, fate works in weird ways. Right now you're hurt, since you saw things as going well. But for him it just wasn't there and he couldn't do it anymore. Isn't it better that he was truthful before he really hurt your feelings by dragging it on longer? What you have to do now is take the time to work through the hurt. Then you can go out and have fun with your friends and do some things for you. You will meet a guy that wants all you have to offer, but you won't meet the right guy if you're moping over the wrong one.

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Registered: 07-26-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:12pm
you guys are great thank you for your advice.