I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months (officially for 3). We are in a very healthy relationship and since we first started dating I had very strong feelings for him. I fell in love with him...and falling harder every single day. I have many reasons why I think he could be the one for me. A few years back when I was going through a hard decision about a guy, I went and talked to my youth minister about whether it was a good idea or not. He told me to go home and make a list of all the different qualities I wanted in the guy I was to marry, and to never stray from that list. So I did...and fortunately that guy didn't work. But I went back and looked at it, and my boyfriend fits everyone of those qualities. So that was the first reason that I thought he could be for me. Also, he was the only guy that my parents had been asking about for 5 years at whether he was single or not. And fortunately I grabbed him when he was. And I am just crazy about him. When I'm not with him or talking to him on the phone, I'm constantly thinking about him. So those are a few reasons why...
Now for the negative part of this message. My boyfriend dated this girl for 2 years before he dated me. He dated her and then stayed single for 2 years. She cheated on him. I had asked him a few questions about it, considering that I knew the girl he dated. I asked him if he was in love with her and he said "Well I thought I was, but it obviously wasn't if it didn't work." I know that he doesn't have feelings for her anymore. But see, the thing is is that I am in love with him and I am waiting for him to say it first. Yea, I know...some people think that whatever you are feeling you should just say it. But, I would just love it if he would come out and say it...it would make the moment a lot more magical. So, I really don't want to stray from that decision. He knows that I feel strongly for him, and I know he feels strongly for me...I just don't know how deep that goes at this point in our relationship. He has told me things like "you have me head over hills" and we are planning a camping trip this summer, and he has already invited me to go skiing with his family Spring Break of 2008. So, what I get out of that is that he DOES want to spend a long time with me.
So, what I'm wondering is...how long is too long to wait for him to say "I love you"? Even if my boyfriend hasn't said "I love you", do you think it is possible for me to be 100% sure that we will end up together?? (because I truely feel that we will)
Please let me know what you think, and thanks for your time...this message ended up coming out the size of a novel.
Amber