My Current Relationship
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| Wed, 08-11-2004 - 2:54pm |
I do not know how to start but I need advice from you. Here is my story:
I was an exchange student studying in England. Last March, I met this girl that I am together with at moment. I really love her, this feeling I never had before with any other girls. I have been dating other girls but those girls I did NOT care about as much as I care about this girl.
Before I used to not spend so much time with my girl and do not care that much about where she goes or comes because I did not have feelings for them. However, now, I care alot about where she goes and comes, what she does and does not etc..
We spent alot of time together, going out, hanging together, we even forgot our friends that we did not spend so much time with.
The problem is that she is an exchange student too but we both live in Europe.
However, I think I love her, I have very strong feelings for her and I do not know if she has the same feelings. Sometimes I think that she is with me only for fun. I do not hear anything from her, only when I ask her she says that she likes me etc.. but on the other hand since now I am at my home country and her too, she always text me and we always talk on the phone and if I one day do not message her or call her, she starts by asking did you forget me! But still I have this feeling that she does not like me as I do.
She is coming to visit me here for a week soon.
I think alot about her everyday, what she does, what if she meets somebody else since I am not with her for 2 months now.
I want to change this feeling and bring it down so I live my life and go on.
What should I do?! I know there is no future between me and her but at least since we are going back to the same city in England to continue our studies for 12 more months, we can still be together...but still.....
Please advice me what should I do?!
Thank you
Sometimes I think its better to forget her and try to change my feelings for her because it is too much. Thinking of her too much, everyday, and maybe it will affect my studies.

There's nothing wrong with getting to know a person without fantasizing a little, is there?
Pianoguy suggests you enjoy your time together...get to know your likes and dislikes...and once you return to school, the bond will either be stronger or (sadly) there won't be much of anything!
LOVE is something most of us have to work at. In spite of what the poets will write in a sonnet or soliliquy...you have to "take time to know her" and vice versa! Let the chapters of your book unfold...naturally. Don't read ahead or try to dispel events before they occur.
Give your lives together some time. If a long-term romantic relationship is supposed to happen...IT WILL! Best of luck to you both.
Pianoguy
I suggest that you tell this girl that you care for her a lot and would like to continue the relationship you have with her. Have the two of you talked about being exclusive, staying together during the school break and reuniting at the return to school? If you haven't, may I suggest you do? I'm sure she would like to know your intentions as well as you learning hers. Try not to think too long term, take each day as it comes but at the same time, it's ok to picture her in the future with you.
Just be honest with how you feel, without going overboard. Put it on the table so she knows where you're at and where you see the two of you going for the next while.