Is my definition of love unrealistic
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Is my definition of love unrealistic
| Wed, 11-03-2004 - 9:03am |
I always thought that I would know I was in love when I met a person who I was not only physically and sexually attracted to but who I considered to be my bestfriend. Someone who I could be completely myself with and who I could share my hopes and dreams. But now I'm not sure this is a realistic view of love. I have doubts about my thinking because I was so sure I had that type of relationship with my ex and I was wrong.
He told me I was his best friend and I know we had the emotional aspect of a relationship but I also thought we had the physical aspect. I mean I wouldn't think a guy would stay in a relationship for a year if he wasn't phyically attracted or if there wasn't a sexual attraction- would they? He never complained about being with me and to this day still says he enjoyed being with me. He even talked about what our kids would look like.
So was I wrong to think that what we had was love and that he loved me or is my definition of love unrealistic?

You would think I know personally I wouldn't, but not all people are the same. Some people feel that you fit 90% of what they want in a lifetime partner so they sacrifice the sexual attraction. I know it seems odd but I have a friend who hasn't liked sleeping with his girlfriend since the first 3 months of dating, turns her down most of the time and he'll probably end up marrying her because he feels she fits the "mold" of a perfect spouse.
I think that's more sad than being alone.