My DRUNK friend came on to my man
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| Mon, 07-26-2004 - 2:41am |
This was the first time they had the opportunity to meet and to talk so I was ok that she stayed at first. A couple of drinks later, she became more and more "friendly" with him, she was trying to defend me in that he should realize how good he has it with me because I love him so much, you know that kind of talk up that friends give when they know there have been problems in a relationship. The talk turned very sexual (somehow) and all kinds of obsenities were brought up. Remember this is the first time she's meeting him and she's talking about oral sex and repeating words like penis (slang words) and vagina (also slang). Anyway, while she spoke like this, she repeatedly put her hands on his shoulder and on his arm and then on his leg near his knee. I dont think I even noticed at first but he grabbed me and pulled me closer to him (a polite display of affection to avert the conversation and the touching I thought).I didnt realize until he started reaching in my shirt (which I quickly put a stop to) that he may be confused about the invitation to come over while she was there. She knew that she was flirting and touching too much because she repeatedly mouthed to me should I leave??? I kept giving that look of YES GET OUT, BUT SHE STAYED AND STAYED... finally after I had moved his hand off me more than once, and actually had a conversation with him in the bathroom about how THIS IS NOT OK, I asked her to leave telling her nicely that we were going to go to sleep. She continued the flirting and touching all the while talking about leaving and finishing up what was left of the alcohol.
My boyfriend at that point was putting his shoes on to leave as well and that is when she finally got off the couch to go...saying oh Im sorry, Im leaving.
He really was leaving it was late and he was out the door, but oddly enough, my friend's car was still in my driveway with her sitting in the driver seat... I knocked on her window and told her that he and I were going to spend the night at his house and she finally drove away. In hindsight I actually think she was waiting for him to leave.
WHAT THE HELL, I MEAN I DONT KNOW WHO I SHOULD BE MORE UPSET WITH HIM OR HER. I think he was drunk and honestly confused about the situation because of our past conversations. I can forgive that because well lets face it, that is one of his fantasies and I have told him that I would fulfil that for him one day.
But my friend had no idea of this and she came on to him anyway, I mean if I did that to her boyfriend when I first met him, I'd have gone home black and blue from the beating she would have given me.
Now she's been calling me & I have no desire to speak with her especially now while Im still SO incredibly angry.
He and I are fighting because of an old classmate (who I was never involved with other than friends) who contacted me through a classmate site. Is it a guilty conscience on his part, or is it just a coincidence that he is looking for an excuse to fight with me because I squelched his opportunity???
PLEASE HELP ME ANY ADVICE IS WELCOME !!!!!!!!!

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As hard as that is to take, you need to let it go, or you are going to find yourself much like the woman on Oprah, 20 years from now, still "alone" being 2nd best to this man's wife and the best part of your years gone by.
You should really reconsider your priorities.
Edited 7/28/2004 2:01 pm ET ET by sunshnhappy111
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