my ex wants back in my life..now confusd

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Registered: 06-27-2004
my ex wants back in my life..now confusd
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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 2:43am
i dated this guy in highschool(1999) for our whole senior year. He persued me for 3 weeks until i caved in, we went to prom together and were in love. Both he and i were to go on our senior trip together but in the end i could not go. That trip was a whole week. But when that week was over he didnt call for almost a month. I had a friend who told me what went on while they were in cancun and found that he had cheated. By that time i had found someone else and begun dating. My ex boyfriend found out and we finally broke things off. 4 years(2003) later we met up and hooked up. i was more into him, but he was having some problems with depression. We were intimate twice and i thought we were going to at least keep in touch with eachother, but he stopped picking up my calls, and all comunication ceased between us. i was so hurt. the reason i was hurt was that i obviously was still in love with the guy. A year has passed and again we crossed paths. Just last week he inadvertantly came to my work and we greeted. i continued on with my work as if he were not there, even walked off. When i came back he was still waiting on me. He asked for my number and claimed he just wanted to hang out. so i gave up the digits. he called me two days later (mind you i was eagerly awaiting that call). asking if i could hang out with him. So i did. i went to a house party where he was at and we talked the whole night. out of the blue he asked me if i still have feelings for him, he claimed that he still felt for me and had been thinking about me for the past year. he also claimed he was sorry for hurting me in the past, and that he was going through some difficult times. all in all, he says he is different and wants something serious with me. He is thinking longterm and wants to make things right. Im scared because he can break my heart, but i still love him. ive always thought about him. What should i do? should i take him back? im thinking he's looking for sex, (we lost our virginity to eachother. im so confused, because im in a stage in my life where i want to get serious and find that person to settle down with. He may be a suitable match but i cant afford to waste time. WHAT WOULD U RECCOMEND
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 9:21am
One surefire way to find out if sex is all he wants is to date him casually--do not have sex with him--and see how it goes. Is this guy really worth a second chance? How would you react IF you did get your heart broken by him again? These are questions only you can answer for yourself. I have seen exs get back together after years seperated and it worked--but in most cases the old saying, "if it didn't work the first time..." is usually the case. Just protect your heart no matter what choice you make here. Good luck.