My friend just told me she has feelings for me, what should I do?
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|Mon, 05-06-2013 - 8:06pm|
I have a good group of friends I hang out with on weekends and we always have a great time! I usually hang out with my two guy friends and my one friend brings his girlfriend and her friends. I actually met everyone through my ex girlfriend so my ex was actually friends with the girls. I have been seperated from my ex girlfriend for almost 3 months now and I've moved on. She doesn't associate with anyone in the group of friends for other reasons.
The other night we were all out and having some drinks and I answered a call. The girls taganized me asking who is that as if it was another girl or something. It wasn't a girl but I noticed my one friend really start to kind of interrogate me in a humorous way who was I texting or talking to and I finally decided to text her and I said "maybe I am texting you!" She then replied "you're an idiot!" I asked why thining she was joking but she wouldn't tell me. So now we are having a text convo in front of everyone while I notice she get's a little serious. She keeps texting me saying you know why and stuff like that. I finally pull it out of her that she has feelings for me! I was very thrown back by this because I never knew this AT ALL! She said she told me one night months back at a bar but I couldn't recall because that was a night I had a serious fight with my ex and I was too caught up in that. She then proceeds to tell me that it doesn't matter cause I'm caught up with this girl I'm talking to and I used to talk to her friend from work a few months back but it never got serious. And her friend from work hangs out with all of us occassionally as well. This girl I was talking to we don't talk anymore since she is moving away for good in a few days and we weren't looking for anything serious. So now here is my situation and some advice I need help on...
My friend who confessed this to me is down right beautiful and I always found her as a very attractive woman, I just never thought there would be feelings because i was with my ex for so long and that was her friend. Now that they're not friends and we're not together that doesn't seem to be a factor. I would like to see how things would go but its difficult because we really didn't get into too much serious convo about it and we aren't the type of friends to hang out without all our friends. And when I think about it she is almost everything I look for in a girl, and it's just crazy cause I have known her for so long and seen her date these guys that just weren't worth her time. And she told me she doesn't know why I put up with my ex's stuff for soo long either.
Should I pursue or hold back? And how do I bring up the convo in a decent manner without her thinking I'm trying to just be with her cause she likes me and convince her I would like for us to get closer?
any advice tips or opinions help!