My friends say he's using me
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My friends say he's using me
| Sun, 06-11-2006 - 8:31pm |
So this guy who I'm dating, I personally think he's a wonderful guy. He's friends with my friends and all that. Well Friday night, we were at a party at his house. There were some of our other friends there, but it wasn't awkward at all. So of course we hooked-up and did some fun stuff, you know.. but my friends caught him watching television while we were kissing. Those deep intimate kisses that I was totally evolved in, he was moving my hair out of the way to watch television!
He flirts with other girls, say my friends. I don't notice it, but maybe it's because I don't want to. I dont know. But most of my friends that know the whole story say that he is just using me for the fun stuff. I am tryign to deny it.. hoping that he isn't and that he truly likes me for me.
This time around is our second time. We have dated before where we broke up because he liked one of my friends. That blew over but he had asked me to be friends with benefits. I haven't stopped liking him since the day I started. After a week, he liked other people again.
When he asked me out for the second time, i agreed after saying things like "How do i know you won't do that again and start falling for someone else in the next week?" He assured me the best he could that that wouldn't happen. So now I'm here after nearly a month.
Is he using me? Should i break it off? Should i just investigate? (how?)

What is there to investigate, hon? The best thing you can do is go by your own history with this guy. First, you already "broke up" with him once before because he liked one of your friends at the same time he was seeing you. Then he asks you to be a FWB. Then all your friends are warning you that he's "using" you for fun and that he was watching TV while kissing you.
I think you have enough "evidence" already that this guy is not someone you should be taking seriously. It sounds like you 2 are very young, and he's probably even younger emotionally than you are.
I think you're asking to get your feelings hurt (again) if you continue trying to be in a romantic relationship with him.