my girlfriend is not experimental

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Registered: 03-21-2004
my girlfriend is not experimental
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Sat, 06-19-2004 - 7:55pm
when it comes to sex. I like to try new things but she seems resistant. I am thinking I am not asking her properly. I try to be caring and respectful and ask if she has any ideas. What else can I do?

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 12:20pm
Ask her if she feels uncomfortable being experimental or if she is unwilling.
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:50am
Well, I was going out with her for a good part of last year, and we broke up. We have been together since last month. That might be it. She might be uncomfortable. I think we need time. Last year, we did alot of intimate things in bed, but she does not want to anymore. Now we the traditional things in bed, but the thing is I love the role-plays she used to do.

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 2:33am
Was there anything major that caused the two of you to break up? It could be that she just needs time to be completely comfortable with you again. She may be afraid of everything and being cautious. All I can say is to talk to her, ask her why she doesn't like doing the things you used to do. Starting a relationship over is a touchy thing. You can't just jump right back into things. You obviously broke up for a reason, maybe you should concentrate more on what went wrong the first time around and making things really work this time, and less time on what you aren't getting from her in bed. Honestly, I wouldn't have jumped right into bed so early on in the relationship, even if you two were together for a year before.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 9:28am
im just curious if there isnt some unresolved anger on her part...?

Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 1:01pm
Unresolved anger? Yah, Is there more to this story then you are telling us?