My girlfriend is scared of love

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Registered: 08-06-2004
My girlfriend is scared of love
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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 9:15pm
I really like this woman and have known her for a few months. Sometimes she is really rude to me and put offish and she even tells some of her friends that she doesn't like me. But I know that we have fantastic chemistry together and I just can't stop thinking about her. And she once admitted to me that she feels it too. She told me that she just liked to talk to her friends that way but that she's always liked me.

But the problem is that she's scared of love and thinks that she'll do something to hurt me and screw everything up.

The last time we met, a few days ago, we were lying in each other's arms and hugging and kissing and talking and it was just wonderful. She had to go to work but said she'd be back, that was four days ago. She called to say that she's scared of being with me and that when she was with me the last time, she started to have feelings of love for me. "My God," she said, "I couldn't believe I was feeling that.."

I've tried talking to her on and on about taking chances, reassuring her, everything. I REALLY like this woman and can't get her off my mind. I've always liked her.

What do I do?

Tom

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 9:18pm
Yes, you are probably right. She might feel that she is 'settling'.

Something new happened in that I found out that she had a couple dates while she was with me so I've pretty much dumped her. And I found out that she lied about them. So, she's not really worth my 'chase' anymore.

Tom

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 1:29am
Tom, I'm sorry it ended that way, that she lied to you and all.

Best of luck on your new dating adventure!! We'll all be here to share in the ups & downs!

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 1:09pm
Tom, sorry to hear that. Well, at least now you can spend your time and attention on someone who will see the great qualities you possess. Then hopefully she'll smarten up and realize what she's lost- which of course will be too late for her. You will find someone who is worthy of all you have to give.

Good luck Tom.

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