Is my guy cheating???????
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Is my guy cheating???????
| Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:51pm |
Well, I have been living with my BF for 5 1/2 yrs. First year was great, the second-fourth were very hard for me. He was out "playing" so to speak. Out all night "with the guys" with no further explaination, worked sometimes, didnt work others... he is 3 years younger than me, I am 28. So the past year has been a "let's get this thing going" year and it's been ok so far. He has a great job now and I am 3 months pregnant and he has promised a phone call to my Dad to ask for my hand in marraige and a ring. (that was 2 weeks ago... still waiting)
So now that you have an introduction, he has had a # of cell phones during our history togather. Sometimes it would ring and he wouldnt pick up and I would ask who it is and it's "just some guy from work, or a friend" but one day I checked his phone and it was another cell phone number with an area code where he used to live about 20 miles away in the city. So ever since then (about a year ago) that number has been coming up on his phone outgoing and incoming when he is out in the middle of the night. I called it and IT WAS A GIRL!!!!
I confronted him about it and it is supposedly just a friend!! Then why havent I ever heard her name in our 5 years togather, or why doesnt he ever talk to her around me??? And why late night?? He comes home to me every night, I have to say, and he hardly ever goes out on the weekend. I just feel like for some reason, I am being deceived. Do I let this go? I have explained that this is a problem for me, but he doesnt stop talking to her. Should i call her or does that display lack of trust (which must be an issue here now anyway since I am writing for advise)?? I just don't know what to do and how to handle this? It's nerve wracking and I dont need it during pregnancy!!! Help!
So now that you have an introduction, he has had a # of cell phones during our history togather. Sometimes it would ring and he wouldnt pick up and I would ask who it is and it's "just some guy from work, or a friend" but one day I checked his phone and it was another cell phone number with an area code where he used to live about 20 miles away in the city. So ever since then (about a year ago) that number has been coming up on his phone outgoing and incoming when he is out in the middle of the night. I called it and IT WAS A GIRL!!!!
I confronted him about it and it is supposedly just a friend!! Then why havent I ever heard her name in our 5 years togather, or why doesnt he ever talk to her around me??? And why late night?? He comes home to me every night, I have to say, and he hardly ever goes out on the weekend. I just feel like for some reason, I am being deceived. Do I let this go? I have explained that this is a problem for me, but he doesnt stop talking to her. Should i call her or does that display lack of trust (which must be an issue here now anyway since I am writing for advise)?? I just don't know what to do and how to handle this? It's nerve wracking and I dont need it during pregnancy!!! Help!

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Here's a link I thought you might find interesting...especially items 2 and 3.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rladultery&msg=34858.1&ctx=0
Sheri
Only he & she know what's going on. I really hope it's nothing, but I also hope you get to the bottom of it before you marry him.
Best Wishes!
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