my guy lied about his age- he's older!

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Registered: 08-18-2004
my guy lied about his age- he's older!
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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 7:04pm
I went on the most PERFECT date last weekend and met a wonderful guy. However, come Monday, my blissful bubble burst when I found out that he lied about his age. He told me he was 35 but is actually 39. I am 24. I have a suspicion that he told me he was younger because I would have freaked out if I knew how old he really was, and the truth is, I would have. Now, I'm more concerned that he lied to me than I am about his age. How do I let him know that I know his secret? Should I also take this as a sign that I can't trust him?
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Registered: 02-29-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 7:19pm
35 and 39 is not too far about in age.

However 24 and 35 is.

So if that makes you unhappy, don't see him anymore.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 9:55pm
I think that if they guy is going to lie about something stupid about his age, then it's bad on two fronts...if he's going to lie about something stupid you know he's going to lie about big stuff, too...if he's lying about his age, then he's got some sort of complex about his age. There's nothing wrong with being 39 at all. There's nothing sexy about someone claiming to look and act younger...I don't know why online guys do it all the time. Being confident in your own skin is sexy. Acting your age is sexy...trying to pass for something you're not says that yourself don't like who you are. Next?
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 8:55am
JMHO, but when a guy lies right out of the gate, its not a good sign.

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 9:36am
My ex-husband lied to me right off the bat about his age. He was 7 years older. I was 19 when we met and very naive. I decided to let it slide. My whole marriage was a lie! When I left my husband you would not believe the lies that he had told. I wish to God that the day I found out he lied I would have run as fast as I could the other way. If a guy can lie to you that easily about something so stupid, who is to say he won't liek to you about everything else.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 11:27am
Can I ask how you found out how old he really was? Did it come from him, his birth certificate or his mother? I am just asking because sometimes the "reliable information source" that tells us the "truth" doesn't always know the truth.

That said, if it is true: if he can so easily lie about the little things to try and get with you, he can lie about the big things too. Face it, he didn't lie about his age for any reason other than to get you interested. He knew that if he was 39 you would have said no thanks. Even 35 when you're only 24 is a big difference.

Move on.

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Registered: 08-18-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 12:17pm
I found out my guy's real age through the grace of modern technology- I did some super-sleuthing by looking him up...and there's no doubt that the source I looked at would be wrong. There was, after all, a very clear picture of him.

After reading everyone's responses, it's made me exit that hopeful buzz I've been feeling that this might work. But I am just getting so fed up with guys and their weirdness! The guy I met before this one ended up taking on a serious girlfiend- while we were dating! If this isn't Sex & the City in reality, I don't know WHAT is!

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 1:49pm

When I was online dating, I had that happen to me, too.

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