Myspace and Text "Rules"

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Registered: 09-21-2007
Myspace and Text "Rules"
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 1:10pm

I'm kind of new back in the game!
I was browsing myspace and ran into a guy that was recently divorced, and I didn't know it, so I sent him an email. He didn't respond so I sent him ANOTHER one, giving him my phone number just in case he doesn't like myspace email maybe? So pretty safe to say at this point he knows I'm interested.

About a week later he texted me, we had a short little conversation, and I dropped off. The next night I texted him late. He texted me the following morning saying, sorry, was sleeping, and we had another conversation which I pretty much ended because I was on my way to a meeting.

Couple days have gone by and no texting. Are we having a conversation or am I still supposed to be waiting for him to contact me and take the lead?

Am I seeing that he is luke warm and I need to let him do the pursuing if that's what he wants.

My dilemma is if I'm allowed to text him back or sit around and wait.

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Registered: 09-07-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 1:25pm
why are you texting him? i think if you initiated contact, you say you're not afraid to put yourself out there and chase him....why don't you just give him a phone call???? i think you would be able to judge a little more quickly if you could hear his voice. that's just my thought on it....
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Registered: 09-21-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 1:35pm
Oh wow that would be a huge one. I'm comfortable with text right now until he calls me. I'm actually pretty shy when it comes to the phone.
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Registered: 09-07-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 3:13pm
hahaha...that's funny. OF COURSE it's much easier to txt or email. but what i am thinking is that as long as you keep txting/emailing, he will continue to do the same. i hate talking on the phone. alot of it comes from shyness as well...and i know that i have said some things (especially at the beginning) via text that i don't think i could of said on the phone or person to person. it's so much safer if you don't have to see that initial reaction, or put yourself out there. maybe you could txt him and say that you'd really like to hear his voice, and to give you a call sometime? see what happens then....as long as you are comfortable with it, that's all that matters! :)
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Registered: 09-21-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 5:11pm

Yes, comfort is good. But you're right, gotta put yourself out there a little. Well the weekend is coming up so here's taking a deep breath and seeing if I end up with some kind of date lol. Or phone conversation, or whatever :)

PS The other thing I like about text is I'm much witty-er when I can take a minute to think about the charming thing I'm going to say next!

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 6:42pm
I'm with jcountrygirl on this one.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 09-23-2007 - 6:24pm

You can text him back of course and it wouldn't be terrible but yes he hasn't been vociferously responding so I'd wait and see if he initiates.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 8:44pm
The new technology makes it easier to get in touch but the messages can also be miscontrued or more easily forgotten.
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