Near the end and heartbroken

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Near the end and heartbroken
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Wed, 07-28-2004 - 10:47am
Hey everyone, I haven't hung out here in a while- but I know it's a great board for consolation and advice. I've written a few posts about my current relationship; how I feel like a P/T girlfriend, the giver (he's the taker), feeling taken for granted, etc. I'm sure many of you can relate.

I see the signs that things could end soon, and it's just so hard. We are at each others throat all of the time now. He's a good guy; not a liar or cheater or an addict of any kind. We just don't see eye to eye on this relationship. We live 1 hour apart and I'm constantly going there, he doesn't have much time for me (works 2 jobs, changing careers), he is not romantic ever (doesn't plan dates, give tokens of affection, etc.) and he is practically broke- he is endlessly complaining about his lack of funds. At 32 years old, I just can't committ to this anymore. He really is a nice guy, but it's just not working and I feel so sad about it.

How do I know that I'm doing the right thing if I allow us to break up? I know that we are both thinking it, but neither one of us is doing the deed. I think I'm the one who sees us headed that way more than him- but I know he's at his breaking point. I'm so confused.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 11:35am
If it feels right, then do it. Is it worth all the fighting? If you two can break up on good terms then there may be a friendship that can stay. I don't think you should ever feel that you've given up, you have tried and it's not working. So if it's not working, why keep trying to fix it? At some point there's not enough glue to fix every hole in it.

Listen to your heart, it's guiding you the right way- and it's looking out for number one- you.

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