Nedd Advice-Did I scare him off?

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Registered: 06-14-2006
Nedd Advice-Did I scare him off?
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Wed, 06-14-2006 - 1:51am

okay so I need a little advice.. from guys or girls ...PLEASE :-)

So I caught up with this guy (he works with my best friend) on friday, who I have knows for about a year through mutual camping trips. We have had a "connection" for a little while but only see each other a few times in the summer. On Friday I ended up catching up with him and his friends, with the girls, who I was out with. We ended up dancing all night and right at the begining he grabbed my number and asked if he could call me, yes of course I said. We have not been able to hook up previous cause of other relationships on both sides.

So come the end of the night I ended up loosing him as he got entangled in a discussion with his ex girlfriend. I was pretty "liquid happy" by that time and ended up calling him a few times with out any answer to see if I could track him down. Then we ended up heading over to his place (with out him), with his roomate and a bunch of other people. I called him just as we arrived as we had yet to find him and left him a voice mail.

He never showed up. After I got home I texted him saying "missed you at your place. call me if you like" .
My question...

I know this was to much hounding and wouldn't normally do it but I did. I am just wondering if this would put off a quy from actually "calling"?

Since it is now Tues night I'm thinking there will be no call.. is this right?

Please Help and sorry for the long blog...

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 7:47am
It sounds like he got side-tracked with his ex or something. I doubt it has much or anything to do with you.
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Registered: 06-14-2006
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 12:29pm
thanks! and fare enough .. but do you think he will even bother actually "calling" me?
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 4:10pm
Well, since he didn't even show-up for his own party, it sounds like he's either running scared or he's involved elsewhere. My guess is the ex, but who knows. For your sake, I hope he calls, but to tell you the honest truth, if I want to drive a guy away without hurting his feelings, I pursue him a lot. There's just a truth that the more available a woman is to a guy, the less he wants her. It's a strange phenomenon, but I've found it to be nearly universally true. Emotions are fickle things. It's not your fault though, probably just bad timing with the ex and all. Good luck.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 9:01pm
He might call, never say never, but yes you were way too over-eager.
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