Need Advice

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Registered: 03-14-2004
Need Advice
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Sun, 03-14-2004 - 11:55pm
I went out with my ex for the first time last night. I have not seen him in several years. We had a wonderful time. Now I have a child and he has been previously married. We were engaged in our previous relationship. But, we had our differences and went our separate ways. Is this a good idea? Should we have gone out?
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Registered: 04-10-2003
In reply to: monkey0313
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:31am
Are you now regretting the fact that you went out with him? Why would it be an issue, and why would you doubt that *fact* of seeing him, unless you still have unresolved feelings/issues where he is concerned?

You did not provide a lot of information, such as the context of your "re-connection" after "several years" (how long) of going separate ways. If you both have lived your separate lives, then I would think that the re-connection was sort of a nice way of catching up with each other, with mutual goodwill. After all, you *were* engaged and once part of each other's lives.

I think what you're asking is that NOW that you have re-connected, is it a good idea to keep that connection? I don't know. People change and once broken relationships can be renewed for the mutual benefit of both parties, sometimes strenghthening and deepening a bond that was once shared. On the other hand, sometimes a single meeting "after several years" is all it takes to resolve in yourself that you have indeed moved on, and that while you appreciate seeing them again, it is best not to have continuing contact. And of course there are those possibilities in between...

My advice? Be honest with yourself and what you want.