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need advice from anyone....
| Tue, 03-30-2004 - 4:13pm |
don't know where to start. I'm in "like" with two guys, one whom i've been dating for about a year now, and the other whom i don't know. my boyfriend and i have been together (as friends) since high school, i've wanted him for 4 yrs, and finally when i get the chance to be with him, i still have this other guy on my mind. the other guy, i go to school with (my bf and i are at different colleges). this other guy, i've only had one class with, but enough eye contact, and enough coincidences with him to know that he has some sort of feeling for me. the problem is, he has a gf. he has been with his gf just as long as i've been with my bf. even though we are in other relationships, i'm almost positive the feeling is mutual. i don't know him to say that i really like him, but i would like to get to know him, but his gf is the jealous type, and that's just not possible for me. i truly want to be with my boyfriend, but something about the other guy just feels right. i don't know what to do, or where to start. my bf knows about all of this, and i know he's not ok with it, but he loves me and he says he'll understand if i want to date other people. i don't want to loose him, b/c when i'm with him, i feel like he's "the one", but then again i feel as though maybe the love i feel for him is more of a companionship, other than romantic. with the other guy, i'm just driven to him, i haven't any reason to want to be with him, he's fairly attractive, but he's no jude law. i guess b/c my boyfriend is the first guy i've been with, i feel like i just need some more experience, to see what else is out there before i decide that he's "the one", but i just feel guilty and confused and lost all at the same time.
i know that no one can tell me how i feel, but any advice would be helpful on anything.i know, i just sound totally confused.
i know that no one can tell me how i feel, but any advice would be helpful on anything.i know, i just sound totally confused.
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| Tue, 03-30-2004 - 4:30pm |
You say something about that other guy feels right. Now that's a feeling I sometimes have as well with guys, but it's not always a romantic thing. Is it possible that he feels right to you, because you sense that he is someone you could have a great frienship with? Of course I don't know how you feel, but I would hate to see you make the same mistake I made with my last boyfriend. He felt right to me as well, so I finally started dating him, but that didn't work out at all. Now we're 'just' friends again and that works much better. Hope this will help you. By the way, do you have any idea how lucky you are with your guy? You actually told him about your feelings and he said that he would let you go if that would make you happy . . .now that is true love: your feelings above all.
