Need Advice Cause it's killin ME!

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Registered: 06-28-2004
Need Advice Cause it's killin ME!
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Mon, 06-28-2004 - 2:26am
I"m in a Situation where I"m so unhappy and confused. I was with this boy named Gary, and he was a very good boyfriend, but I didn't appreciate him. I would start arguements with him and never really appreciate him. One day I asked him a question about his ex and he snapped and then I saw this other boy and I talked to him about 10 mins. Gary got mad and broke-up with me. The next day I talked to him and tried to get back with him, he said we could be friends but he didn't know about us getting back together because I argue to much and I will lie to him.

Then one day I got into a talk with him and he said that we will work something out cause he missed me. I was excited, but me and him argue alot because he is a Taurus and I'm an aquarius. But we were wtill cool i guess, then one day me and my friend wanted to play a joke on him, but he got to mad and we got into a big big arguement, I said some bad things about me and I said some horrible things about him. After that day we haven't ever spoke again we treat each other like strangers.

The problem is I really really like him and I care for him alot, I want and feel I need to have him, no matter what happens or who else I date when i wake up or when I go to sleep he's the one I"m thinkin of. I never appreciated him untill he was gone. I"ve just never ever felt this way before, and I don't know what to do, because he has the kind of personality where you could never know how he really feels about anything.

What should I do? Should I move on? should I call him and tell him how I feel? please help because It's killin me!

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 3:41pm
Hello keisha_tn!

Welcome to Ask the Dating Doyenne!!

What should you do? In my opinion I think you should use the time away from him to try to understand why you bahave as you do.

 
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Registered: 05-13-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 12:35am
firstly, you have learnt that you never really appreciate something till its gone. um that bit about how he broke up with you (seemingly cos u were talking to another guy) seems a bit catty on his behalf, but also maybe that was just a catalyst(excuse) to break up as he had a lot to deal with reg how you were treating him.

i think you just need to cut past the 'will he will i wont i should i shouldnt i'...(a trap i myself fall into) and just contact him and tell him how your feeling. hopefully the two of you are mature enuf to talk thru things and let each other know what you each think and where u stand.

please dont fret too much cos it will spin your head around and create a well mixed dough suitable for making a cake with....(and i know how that feels)

:)