Need advice on men or boys whatever

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Need advice on men or boys whatever
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 10:44pm
Hi all,

I am a newbie here. I am a bit frustrated.

I go to yoga alot and there is this darling man that is there almost all the times I am there.

My friends have told me that he stares at me when I am going across the room, or talking to someone else. I have approached him and introduced myself. I say Hi everytime, and he puts his yoga mat near me alot.

I always seem to initiate conversation, I wish he would do it too!!

I talked to him today for awhile and he remembered my name from a month ago. He also, (as we were walking) got around me so I was on the inside of the sidewalk. Like a gentlemen or is that a sign of interest?

He told me he would help me with some Ebay stuff I have to sell, but when I asked him if he had a card he said no. I thought he would ask for a # or offer me his. Anyway, I do see him almost everyday so maybe he thought he would just discuss then..

I cannot tell if he is interested, darn. He is younger, 30ish so maybe he is scared. I do look young for my age, but about 35.

Sorry to ramble on, but I am flumexed!!!

Do you think he wants me or not, pleasssse!!!!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 6:49pm
Hopefully you will never have a pot belly. The man I am most seriously involved with has one and I make sure to pay as much attention to it as the rest of him so that he knows I love the package. And he is most certainly eye candy, at least to me.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sat, 03-13-2004 - 12:18am
Well, I talked to a guy that knows him and he said "Oh, he and his GIRLFRIEND sell alot on Ebay" So that's the deal. I will steer clear, but be nice. Don't want more complications!!!!

And I am just saying about the pot belly, I want to be with someone who cares about their health and appearance.They don't have to have movie star looks, but a healthy, fit body does say alot about someone. It is important to me and shows respect for oneself. It has always been part of my life to stay healthy and fit (and excercising helps out mentally too!!), as well as other important values.

Thanks for all the advice, didn't mean to offend. We all have our preferances!!

Have a great weekend guys!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-13-2004 - 8:13am
My "bf" works out with a personal trainer twice a week, works out five times a week and is trying to lose another 10 pounds on weight watchers - he is quite health conscious - that does not mean he doesn't have a bit of a belly and it doesn't mean I care either way about whether it decreases - just because someone has 10-20 pounds to lose does not mean it is a health risk the way true obesity is. I am 5"2 and have been 110 pounds or less for many years and have good genetics - but no my stomach has never been perfectly flat - not since I had a mild eating disorder and was 90 pounds as a teenager. The men who want someone with a "perfect" body here in manhattan might reject me because my stomach - even though there is no real extra fat - could be a little firmer I guess. I would not want to be with a man with "standards" like that because in the long term, women get pregnant, sag a bit, etc and I would have a hard time maintaining his standard and do not want to.

So yes I agree that health and fitness say a lot about a person - but to say that only a man with 6pack abs is healthy/fit is inaccurate - many of those men are obsessed with working out and or take steroids and that is way less healthy than having a little tummy, IMHO.

As far as yoga guy - I am not surprised - proves my point again - a man who is sincerely interested and available will ask you out on a proper date. He is not available and that is why he enjoyed being friendly/harmless flirtation, but chose not to take it further - nothing to do with shyness.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:33pm
deena33 - This is not the place to put an attitude. You don't have to be right all the time. Every post I read a post from you it is negative and telling someone why the guy is not going to like them. I don't think that you need to prove your point to everyone on the board that you think you are always right. I do not agree. I think that you believe women are suppose to sit on their butts and wait for the right man to beg them to date. I know that you can post whenever you want but can't you just keep the attutude out of it???

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