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| Sun, 10-31-2004 - 8:17pm |
I'm a senior in college getting ready graduate, and i'm dating a guy long distance who is out of college and working full time. Not only do I have our age difference (21 and 26) but we are long distance also.
We have been dating a year and 4 months and recently I have started feeling like I don't know where the relationship is going. I don't know if I love him (we don't say i love you) and after school I'm not sure where I will be. He said that he has seriously thought about moving with me wherever I go. He is an absolutely wonderful guy but I just don't know if I see him in my future right now. I've always pictured myself being out of school and dating before I tried to settle down.
I talked to him about breaking up because I'm scared that he's alot more ready for this relationship than I am. I also think that there is a Mr. Right out there for me and I don't think it's him!
I'm so confused- do I just need to chill out and take this day by day?
Am I wrong in thinking there is a perfect person out there for me?
We have been dating a year and 4 months and recently I have started feeling like I don't know where the relationship is going. I don't know if I love him (we don't say i love you) and after school I'm not sure where I will be. He said that he has seriously thought about moving with me wherever I go. He is an absolutely wonderful guy but I just don't know if I see him in my future right now. I've always pictured myself being out of school and dating before I tried to settle down.
I talked to him about breaking up because I'm scared that he's alot more ready for this relationship than I am. I also think that there is a Mr. Right out there for me and I don't think it's him!
I'm so confused- do I just need to chill out and take this day by day?
Am I wrong in thinking there is a perfect person out there for me?

Don't allow him to convince you into doing something you don't want to do.
As far as finding a perfect mate for yourself, not many do. You will in time, find someone you love very much, so keep looking until you do. good luck
If the 2 of you aren't saying "I Love You" NOW...Pianoguy doubts that 'term of endearment' will be uttered at all?
What you seem to have is a friendship that goes a bit farther...but not to the point of a serious relationship? And judging from your choice of words, you aren't ready to SETTLE DOWN!
Please consider a little advice from a 'mature man?' . You are 21 years old and have an infinite number of possible encounters ahead of you! Explore YOUR dreams first. Let your b/f know that while his 'offer' to follow you is very appealing...you NEED your space for awhile.
If you both can handle a trial separation from each other....what you have now will either grow A LOT STRONGER on both sides...or COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR!
Best wishes and warm thoughts,
Pianoguy