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| Fri, 08-13-2004 - 12:11pm |
I was dating someone for about a year and last month he broke up with me in an e mail- in the e mail he indicated he wanted to do things as friends obviously without physical intimacy.
He also starting dating someone else which he included in the e mail break up.
I called him and said I didn't think the friendship thing would work and lets discuss it again in 3-6 months and see if that is even of interest to either of us.
He said no that isn't what he wants he wants to spend time with me as a friend and he told the new person he is dating that he would still be seeing me as a friend. I stuck to my guns and he said it was ok if I needed some time to chill
I sent him a closure note saying in the note what I said on the phone so he would get it that this was my decision to make for me.
He was not happy at all with my decision I think probably because I took control over the situation.
He also starting dating someone else which he included in the e mail break up.
I called him and said I didn't think the friendship thing would work and lets discuss it again in 3-6 months and see if that is even of interest to either of us.
He said no that isn't what he wants he wants to spend time with me as a friend and he told the new person he is dating that he would still be seeing me as a friend. I stuck to my guns and he said it was ok if I needed some time to chill
I sent him a closure note saying in the note what I said on the phone so he would get it that this was my decision to make for me.
He was not happy at all with my decision I think probably because I took control over the situation.
If in a few months I hear from him (highly unlikely I know, but just my fantasy right now )
I would like to know what to say to him that indicates in a nice way that I think what and how it did it sucks and that I have moved on with my life.

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Why bother giving the man the satisfaction of saying anything? Pianoguy understands that many women "want the last word" in a situation similar to yours...but you and he are not "in sync" when it comes to what you each want.
Being "buddies" this soon isn't realistic...a year from now, maybe? Meanwhile...you are a FREE AGENT...and have the right to pick and choose a man who wants to spend his time with YOU...and not a harem of other women!
Pianoguy
Who needs a creep like that?
When he said He wanted to be friends, I thought - if you didn't want me as a girlfriend why should you have the benefit and priviledge of my friendship.
One of the things I need to do is try to regain some of my self respect and self esteem so my radar will be out for guys like this.
You always think you want the last word in this circumstance but the greatest satisfaction you can have is to get on with your life and enter into a relationship with someone who appreciates being with you.
Talk about going from a great feeling of getting flowers from someone you care about to being dumped the next day.
The lack of sincerity of giving flowers was almost as bad as being dumped.
Edited 8/16/2004 3:20 pm ET ET by calliesam2004
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