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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 12:11pm
I was dating someone for about a year and last month he broke up with me in an e mail- in the e mail he indicated he wanted to do things as friends obviously without physical intimacy.

He also starting dating someone else which he included in the e mail break up.

I called him and said I didn't think the friendship thing would work and lets discuss it again in 3-6 months and see if that is even of interest to either of us.

He said no that isn't what he wants he wants to spend time with me as a friend and he told the new person he is dating that he would still be seeing me as a friend. I stuck to my guns and he said it was ok if I needed some time to chill

I sent him a closure note saying in the note what I said on the phone so he would get it that this was my decision to make for me.

He was not happy at all with my decision I think probably because I took control over the situation.

If in a few months I hear from him (highly unlikely I know, but just my fantasy right now )

I would like to know what to say to him that indicates in a nice way that I think what and how it did it sucks and that I have moved on with my life.


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Registered: 02-29-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:13pm
He didn't cc his new girlfriend in the e mail.

He told her he would still be seeing me as a friend and that they would not have an exclusive relationship with her.

I am just glad I am not having to deal with his crap anymore, I don't care who he dates or how he treats them.

I know I deserve someone who wants to be with me and feels priviledged to be with me.


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Registered: 08-18-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 9:45pm
I agree with pianoguy. Don't even give him the satisfaction of acknowledgemnt. That will bother him more than anything you could say. Oh I have a feeling he will try and come back, especially if he still wants to be friends, but you deserve much better than that! He HAD his chance.

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