need help

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Registered: 03-17-2004
need help
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Fri, 09-17-2004 - 1:20am
ok i have been with the same guy for about 3 years and we have a 2 year old daughter together. well we have been fighting extremely too much for the past 6 months or so. we have tried and tried working on our relationship over and over again. im not happy and i haven't been for some time now. i don't even think i am in love with him anymore. we have broken up 4 times and gotten back together each time in the past 6 months. what should i do?

also there is another guy that i have been thinking a lot about lately too. i know there is something there between us. but im really scared that if i persue this guy i won't get anywhere because he is a friend of my bf and he made a promise to him that if anything ever happened to him that he would not date me. help me please im am stuck
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Registered: 09-17-2004
In reply to: babygirl81902
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 1:34am
I believe in the idea that if you're not happy in a relationship, get out. I was dating a guy a while back and for the last half of our relationship, all we did was fight, break up, get back together, repeat process. We finally broke up and came to terms with the fact that we're not right for one another. If you're not happy and you two continually fight, I suggest leaving.

I suggest that you concentrate on what you want to do about your relationship with your current boyfriend instead of jumping into a relationship with his friend. I don't agree with dating ex's friends, but that's just one girl's opinion. Also, I think you should try and keep on good terms with the father of your daughter and if dating his friend will upset him, I don't think that will be a good environment for your daughter. I don't have children and I've never been is this situation, so this is just an outsider's opinion. Feel free to disagree with me, but this is just how I see it.

Good luck!