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| Mon, 12-13-2004 - 10:05pm |
Hello Everyone. I need you to "translate" something for me. I was dating this guy for a while. We had a great time together. I ended it because I was mad at him. Over the time I realized that I was wrong. The way I acted was completely wrong and I'm not surprise he
never called me again. I send him an e-mail saying that I missed spending time with him...blah, blah, blah. He responded me with..." I'm not sure we could or should try a romantic relationship but I miss spending time with you and maybe we sould try a friendly relationship. I want to see you also". .....Could it posibly be true? Or it's a polite way to say " Sorry. I'm not interested in you in any way"?......What are your thoughts on this?
never called me again. I send him an e-mail saying that I missed spending time with him...blah, blah, blah. He responded me with..." I'm not sure we could or should try a romantic relationship but I miss spending time with you and maybe we sould try a friendly relationship. I want to see you also". .....Could it posibly be true? Or it's a polite way to say " Sorry. I'm not interested in you in any way"?......What are your thoughts on this?

It seems pretty clear that he's saying he'd like to get together if you are ok with being platonic friends.
If he weren't interested in ever seeing you again, he wouldn't have bothered responding, I don't think.
BUT, I wouldn't meet him if you are NOT ok with being just friends.
Sheri
sswanlake...
Pianoguy is humming a few bars from the Tchaikovsky ballet as he writes this.
Plain and simple...YOU cancelled this man out and he took that cancellation seriously. This is why he's not going to put himself completely on the dance floor a 2nd time. He wants to see what 'positive steps' you take first! Sooooo...
Pop a 'snail mail' friendship card to this man's address. Just something with a little humor (nothing mushy)...along with a sincere message that you'd like to try being good friends with him again. Perhaps if you're sincere enough...he'll eventually take things further?
But...if after 10 days...you have received NO RESPONSE and/or not even a "THANK YOU FOR THE NICE CARD YOU SENT ME"---consider this friendship finished! This way, you can 'piroutte' onward to someone else!
Pianoguy
sswanlake...
"Time heals all wounds!" ....
If you feel comfortable enough to try and renew the friendship...great! You might not receive a positive response...or even ANY response....from HIM!
Your profile indicates that you are an artist...correct? Perhaps you (and a few other ivillagers) have to realize that maintaining and sustaining a friendship...or a relationship...is AN EXTREME ART FORM! You don't just paint the canvas once and call it good.
You have to IMPROVE upon that painting (your relationship) by adding additional colors combined with subtle touches. You do this through the words you use---and the way you express them. Many of us are willing to give a woman a 2nd chance---when she HONESTLY wants to try again.
Pianoguy
Absolutely! If both people are over their romantic feelings for each other, it's totally possible.
I am friends with several exes, including my ex-husband.
Sheri