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need help to save my heart
| Thu, 11-04-2004 - 8:52am |
I am in an difficult situation. I met someone about 4 months ago and we both had an immediate attraction to one another. However, he had just got out of a 5 year relationship where the girl cheated and hurt him badly. That was about 6 months prior to us meeting. I myself had just ended a 4 year relationship. I knew that he wasn't looking to jump into another serious relationship, but he wasn't opposed to anything that could happen. Everything was great between us, yet his ex would pop up and mess with his mind. His close friends all told me to be patient and give him some time but that he was interested. Now it seems like all we have is an ongoing physical relationship. I know his past and I know that he isn't the type to have "meaningless" sex. Therefore, I don't know what to do. I'm scared to bring it up to him, and freak him out, if he just needs time before he can start a real relationship. And when he is ready, will it be with me? I'm really confused and he is all I can think about. I can't help but feel that he doesn't want me, apparently, and even worse that I'm falling for him. What am I supposed to do?

Meanwhile, go on with your life as you normally would: hang out with friends, meet new people, etc. You should also expect nothing in return from him. When there is no expectations, you will be alot happier. If you see him change for the better over time, then you can find out if he truly ready to have a relationship with you. If he is never ready, then you know you should go on. I hope this helps.