Need input from women, please!!

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Need input from women, please!!
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Mon, 09-27-2004 - 9:38am
Need some advice from women… I have a female friend who I’ve known for quite some time… There’s always been some sort of chemistry between us… an unspoken attraction. Until recently, we were both in committed relationships so we were nothing more than friends. Lately, however, she stops by unannounced, calls me almost every day… We hang out every weekend, but always with other mutual friends. We usually drive together on the weekends, so at the end of the night, there’s always an awkward moment when, if I was on a regular date, I would kiss my date goodnight… I usually just give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek because I don’t want to presume that she’s looking for more and ruin our friendship. Our conversations sometimes lead me to believe she likes me and other times that she just wants to be friends. She often tells me about how she rejects the advances of guys who ask her out because she’s not looking for anything right now but then other times she says she’s just waiting for the right guy to come along. But then again, when I get a call from other female friends when I’m with her, she seems to get jealous… Okay ladies… why do you have to be so complicated? Men are pretty cut and dry but women have to send mixed signals just to confuse us. So what do I do… Wait for more signs that she’s interested? Express my feelings and jeopardize our friendship? HELP! Ugg!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-27-2004 - 10:23am
Talk to her. If you are truly friends, then an honest conversation about how you each feel isn't going to jeopardize your friendship. Yeah, there may be a little bit of awkwardness for a while, but so long as the person who has more feelings (you, if she turns you down) is able to let go of those, I've found that the friendship lasts just fine.

If she *does* like you in the romantic sense, she is waiting for you to do something, so if you don't, you will never know.

Sheri