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|Tue, 10-23-2012 - 1:13pm|
I met someone about 3 months ago at a country club. Coincedentally we happened to live really close by each other and shared a lot of things in common. We spent the night talking and since then we talk everyday on the phone or by text. The downside to the whole thing is in the almost 3 months that I have known him I have only seen him 3 times apart from the night I met him. He works for his dads company, and works mon-sat pretty much from open to close. He only has sunday's off and usually gets out of work late. All 3 times that I have seen him he always comes straight from work still in his work uniform. He has been having issues with his father because he feels he needs a better schedule and to work less hours so that he can have some type of a life. He enrolled in school yesterday which just makes him more busy, I applaud him for going back to school because I too am enrolled in school and I feel it would really benefit him in the future.
When we first started talking he made it clear that right now he did not have the time to be anything more than my friend. Twice I have told him that I could not continue to talk to him because my feelings were growing for him and I didn't feel I was getting in return what I was giving. But, both times he would reach out to me again and we would pick up where we left off like if the conversation I had with him never happened. I have mentioned to him that I didn't understand why it was so difficult to see him and he would just tell me how he works crazy hours and that he wished he could see me more often.
I have 2 daughters he has no children at all. I always felt a little insecure about it, almost as if though if I didn't have any children things between us would be different. He has reassured me that me having children is not an issue for him at all. His brother is in the Marines stationed in california, and the last time we hung out he mentioned something along the lines of "when you meet my brother". I don't want to read too much into it since well he could have just been saying it to say it, but it sort of felt like if he saw some type of future since his brother won't be in town for months.
His last relationship officially ended in April, they had been together for 4 years, the last year they were on and off. He found out she was cheating on him, and other lies that she had said. He told me that he was in love with her and that even after they broke up he still had feelings for her and that he couldn't believe what she did to him. He said that he always trusted her and that she really messed him up when he found out the truth.
I am not sure if I should just continue to talk to him only seeing him on average once a month, or if I should just cut it and move on. I really like him, and we really do click. We could spend hours talking on the phone, we have chemistry and he makes me feel so good inside.