Need Opinion on possible mariage

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Registered: 04-02-2006
Need Opinion on possible mariage
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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 1:02am

Hi my name is Kaylee (20) and I am new to this board. I honestly just had a question that I figured I could get honest unbiast opinions about because you all don't know me personally. My best friend and I started dating 3 1/2 months ago. We have been best friends for 7 years. I know every flaw about this man i realize, accept, and understand him for who he is. His name is Keith(20) and is a part of the 82nd airborne division at Fort Bragg. We however are both from Knoxville, Tennessee.

Keith waited 7 years to be able to date me and that is because I needed him to grow up before we could be together. He is going to be deployed within the next year, and before he goes we want to get married. I wouldn't however move to North Carolina until after he got back from deployment. I know I would need a support group and all our family and friends are here. The only thing that I worry about is what some of my family will think of this. One of there worries would more than likely be that we're too young, I won't finish school, etc. His family however supports us in any decision that we would make. I'm in college and I would continue to be. When he gets back from Iraq I would move up to North Carolina and finish school there

This is really hard to explain over an e-mail. If I confused any of you I'm really sorry. I would just appreciate your thoughts and comments on the situation. I know i'm not asking anything specific and I know I didn't explain this too well so I apologize. Thank you all.

Kaylee

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Kaylee/19/TN DF to Keith/20/Army

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 10:59am

Kaylee...

Pianoguy knows there are some couples who...because of the military or a job that takes 'em out of state a lot...can "handle a long-distance marriage?" But do you HONESTLY think you can?

Since your "almost fiancee" has made the choice to enter the airborne division...you should be permitted to complete your education while he's away! Put any "marital obligations and responsibilities" on hold!

Here's what will happen if you choose to wait:

1. His hitch will be up and he'll get several benefits the 2 of you can use!
2. You'll have completed your education which will help you in a future career!
3. The 2 of you can pay more attention to each other when you're living in the same area!

If the man is mature enough to be a husband...he'll respect your desire to wait so you can become "a better wife" for him.

Best wishes, warm thoughts and good luck!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 1:23pm
What's the rush?

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