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| Tue, 08-31-2004 - 10:23am |
hi Doyenne,
i'm 20 year old student and my boy friend is 37. we have 17 yr's of age difference. we both love each other a lot and want to get married after i complete my studies. but i am a bit scared to tell my parents that i want to marry a guy who is much older than me. is loving a guy who is much older to me a crime? he is a very nice and caring guy and has never married before.
please advice!
i'm 20 year old student and my boy friend is 37. we have 17 yr's of age difference. we both love each other a lot and want to get married after i complete my studies. but i am a bit scared to tell my parents that i want to marry a guy who is much older than me. is loving a guy who is much older to me a crime? he is a very nice and caring guy and has never married before.
please advice!

Next I want to know how long you two have been together? If you have been together less than a year, I suggest when you DO get engaged that you set the wedding date at least 12-18 months in the future.
My aunt is 15 years younger than my uncle, my nana is 20 years younger than my gramps and my mom is 7 years older than my step dad- so to me big age differences are the *norm* in my family.
Just make sure that you are certain that the age difference is not an issue for you. Hopefully your parents will warm up to him once they see how wonderfully he treats their daughter.
Good luck
Does he live with his momma?
Does he have a job?
A car?
If you answered yes to number 1 or no to 2 or 3 I would say run for your life and fast. A man his age should not have any of these issues.
Does he have any kids at all? There has to be a reason why this dude is still single, or was single when you met him. Be careful, but I hope it works out for you.