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| Wed, 09-06-2006 - 12:17pm |
Where to start....okay well I've been dating this guy in the past month and with both our hectic traveling schedules we only been on 5 dates. He only texts and emails me to meet up, if I'm in town or if he is etc... and we work around our sched to see what fits. So its just the beginning but we had started to get physical. I'm not sure if we are exclusive yet, but in between the time we don't see each other we never speak on the phone to converse or anything like that. I don't hear from him for days at a time and lately its been a week since the last time I've seen him and haven't heard from him yet.
Its quite confusing because he may drop a text here or email but never a phone call. I know these days everyone texts and email to communicate but if your starting to date someone and have this great chemistry...it just appears impersonal to a point. So basically my concern is if he's really into me or I'm just someone to get together with when we're both available. I know its the beginning but I just feel as though he's really keeping his distant and because we've become physical, I have emotionally become indebted to him. Twice when we were texting each other and I was tired of it and wanted to just to talk to him instead...I call him and he wouldn't answer his phone but then I text him and he would reply.
Besides the text thing...I haven't heard from him in a week and I did email him last nite just to say "hello" and if he was in town. He hasn't replied yet and he has a sidekick so any emails he receives goes directly to his phone and he receives them immediately.
I feel as though he's playing games and likes to be in control when he wants to contact me or he could be extremely busy. Either way I'm jumping to conclusions and its getting me feeling anxious about our relationship. I mean he's 40 years old and I'm younger by 7 years. I'd think he be more mature and responsive.
any advice and opinion on this is greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Sindy

Sindy...
First...PG suggests that you "stop playing the age card" (his 40 years to your 33). Irresponsibility can occur in both sexes at ANY AGE between 3 and 103! Don't you think it's a little childish to bring up the fact that the man you've been dating is in his 40s, which is the reason for his lack of communication?
There ARE 40-old men who communicate with women incredibly well, irregardless of their age!
Look!
If you feel you're just a "number" and there isn't enough interest on his side for an honest, sustaining relationship...THEN END IT! But consider one thing...PLEASE???
The 2 of you have ONLY BEEN DATING FOR A MONTH! Aren't your expectations for something LONGTERM showing up a little too soon?
Pianoguy
Thanks for your input. I have a clear idea now and because its coming from a man's point of view on this....its like a wake up call.
I only mentioned the age because I've never dated someone older than 3 years and thought that he would be more mature and proactive in his actions than being elusive. Regardless, it really depends on the person despite the age.
I know its only been a month but I guess I'm over my head on this and should just take it with a grain a salt. I really like him and he's different than anyone I've dated so its like I want to keep him. Just don't know where I stand but that will take a few more dates down the road.
thanks for listening.
Sindy