Need some advice..PLEASE

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Registered: 09-22-2007
Need some advice..PLEASE
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Tue, 10-16-2007 - 8:38am

*I know this is long..but I wanted to give every single detail:

Ok, so I went on a date with this guy, and it went well..I think. I can't really tell with guys..they're SO hard to read. Here are some of the things that happened that kind of stood out (time for the analyze the date game):

Some of the good things:

1) Of course he paid for everything, dinner and a movie. I offered to pay for dinner but he said that he was paying.
2) We talked a LOT. We had a lot of time to kill between dinner and the movie so I got to know a lot about him. (he doesn't curse or drink)
3) He put his arm around my chair when we were eating (though I'm not sure if this is a big deal or not, some guys just do it anyways to stretch or something)
4) At the end of the date when he took me back to my apartment he said "I'm glad we got together"
5) He also made reference to the fact that we need to play volleyball or go biking again.
*I don't know if he was saying these things just to be nice or what? Sometimes guys do that

Some of the questionable things:

1) We saw a guy he used to play golf with at dinner. And this guy introduced him to his wife, but he (my date) didn't introduce me (it could have been an honest mistake, it's not like he was trying to hide the fact we're dating b/c we ended up at the same table as they did..Japanese..where they cook in front of you. He probably just didn't think about it)
2) I felt I was being tested. He was really firing some hard questions at me to see how i would react such as:
- What would you do if your husband watched football all day? (All the guys at the table were trying to figure out what had happened with a football team that day..they all had their cell phones out, getting up to check the tv, etc. I looked at the wife of the guy he knew and kind of rolled my eyes and said "Boys" in a joking way) I don't remember how i responded..I think I just said something like..I don't know..watch it with him i guess.
- What would you do if you had to cook for your family? (We were killing time in a bookstore before our movie and i was looking at cook books. I had previously told him i was a horrible cook and didn't really do it.) I think I said..well I'll just have to learn then. He later told me he doesn't mind doing dishes but he hates to cook.
- He asked if I drink..and I do drink but I don't drink that much. An occasional glass of wine. He asked if I got buzzed and I said that I am a lightweight so when I drink a glass of wine I just get really happy and friendly and a little flirty.
*This questions were throughout the night..they weren't like one right after the other

He didn't really touch me at all..like try to hold my hand or kiss me or anything, which I am fine with. It's not that I didn't want him to, it's just that this was our first "real" date and I like to take things slow and I think he does too. Though he did hit me on my arm a few times. I can remember once when i was coughing in the movie (I had an itch..i hate that..to see if I was alright, and then again near the end of the night b/c i was biting my nails and I told him earlier it was a bad habit of mine)

He's very laid back and really into sports. He's definitely a jock. We also talked about differences b/t girls and boys and I said that I was "low maintenance" and I don't think he believed me. He said he hadn't met a girl yet that wasn't high maintenance. He said well if it's true then you're the first girl i've met that's low maintenance. He also didn't believe me when I said that I like westerns (we saw 3:10 to Yuma)..i think he thought I was trying to impress him, which wasn't really the case. I like action movies.

Also, one last thing. We didn't get back till almost midnight b/c we had seen a late movie. He lives about 45 minutes or so away. He was yawning and saying 'I hope I can make it back without falling asleep.' I got a little worried and made sure when he was dropping me off that he would be fine to drive back. I guess I could have offered him my couch if he needed it but i didn't think he would accept anyways. So I felt kind of guilty about that. I texted him this morning to see if he got back ok (but i remembered he doesn't get good cell phone reception at all where he lives..we kind of live in the country), so I thought that maybe he would text me back on Monday..but it is now Tuesday and I haven't heard from him :(

Sooo I don't know what he's thinking at the moment. Any thoughts?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 9:13am

His "hard" questions seem to me more a way to get to know you, not to test you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 4:07pm

It's SO

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 4:29pm

He asked you very pointed questions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 10:31pm

Ok, here is an update.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 11:45am

Good luck!