need some dating adivce

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Registered: 01-30-2011
need some dating adivce
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Mon, 11-19-2012 - 4:28pm

Hello, Im 27 and Ive been single since March. I have met a couple guys but it never went anywhere after the initial meeting. Being single is nice in a way but I do miss having a connection with someone.  I feel lost in a sense because my other friends don’t seem to have any problems finding someone and I cant. I don’t understand because my friends just seem to just use the guys and I the kind of person that wants to get to know a person. I pretty much have no idea where to meet a good guy and I do not understand why I’m unable to. So any thought on where good guys are that want to get to know someone? 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 11-19-2012 - 10:31pm

I would say that you would have the best chance of meeting a good guy you can actually have a relationship with doing an activity that you like in common or taking a class and not in a bar--but you just never know.  Some people have success w/ OLD--my cousin's DD, who was about your age, met her DH that way.

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Registered: 01-30-2011
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 8:22am

Thank you, I'll have to do some reasearch to see where there is places or events I like. I live in a small town and commute to work in another town, so just need to find something since we don't have bookstores anymore. 

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Registered: 12-15-2011
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 11:40am

Hi Girlie! 

There are many places to meet guys outside of the bar! Friends and Family are great ways to meet people. Its a perk meeting someone through friends or family because they usually come high recommended and already have some background. Don't underestimate that tool! Intermural sports, if you are into that, can be great as well! My favorites are concerts, comedy clubs and sporting events- that way you already have something in common! Another fun way to meet people is by taking classes- cooking classes, wine tastings, and things of the sort. Hope these help. These are just a few from my book 8 Weeks to Everlasting.

Keep your chin up! There is a great guy just around the corner. 

xox 

Amy!

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Registered: 01-30-2011
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 4:21pm

Thank you, my parents did try to set me up once, but there was nothing there. I'll have to see if they know of someone else though since that was almost two years ago Wink My friend's guy friends tend to be off limits lol thats girls i guess. I think the classes is a great idea. I hope to get into something this Spring at the community college to learn another language. Thank you again. 

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Fri, 11-23-2012 - 2:57am

musiclover12 wrote:
<p>I would say that you would have the best chance of meeting a good guy....doing an activity that you like in common or taking a class and not in a bar--but you just never know.  Some people have success w/ OLD....</p>

As usual,  Musiclover12 has good advice. Think of common activites where men will participate too. This includes religious activities.

Internet dating is high volume low yield, but still does work sometimes.  I met my wife online with her contacting me first.

Another option as Amy Laurent said is that maybe friends, family members, coworkers, etc. will know men who could be right for you. Don't just presume they won't help or don't know anyone. Ask.

Good luck.