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| Wed, 03-24-2004 - 12:06pm |
When I first told him he flipped out, telling me that he couldn't believe how stupid I was to be such a slut and things along that line. Ever since, we go through these periods where everything is fine. We get along great and then I will run into an old friend. Even if it is someone that I have known for years and there was nothing sexual between us ( it can even be a stupid movie where some girl is having sex and he will start in on me) my boyfriend will flip out saying things like "is that one of the guys you used to f**k. Then he will go on these tangents about how he doesn't know if he wants to be with someone that was such a slut. That it makes him sick that I slept with so many men. He goes on and on until I feel like a complete pile of dirt that he keeps jumping on.
I get frustrated because I always thought that being with someone you love means that they love you unconditionaly and they don't break down your self asteem. I love him and I know he loves me, I just don't understand why he can be so cruel and then after I am sobbing crying and obviously hurt he can turn around and give me a hug and tell me he still loves me. I don't want to leave but I do at the same time. I really don't know what to do????

Thank you again!
Nicki
I am 30 and married to a man who is 11 yrs my senior. While we love each other very much, he does at times refers to that fact that he likes being married to a younger woman where him and his friends gloat about it. It is a very proud thing for a man to be dating or married to a younger woman and some take it to more extremes such as your boyfriend and go obsessive about it. Your boyfriend seems like he needs CONSTANT reassurance from you that you will be there for him always, but I tend to think it may be mroe of a hassle for you that will only break the bond between you two. If you really love him and want to make it work, then you have to sit him down and put your foot down, letting him know that what happened is in the past and that he should not hold it against you and if he can't than you need to move on without him!
Coolas