Need some help!

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Registered: 07-06-2003
Need some help!
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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 10:31am

Hello all:

I am 34, single, divorced for 2 yrs, and new to this chat - nice to meet you all! Here is my dilemma. I am successful in my career, finances, family and friends. The one are I have not been successful is in relationships. I purchased a second home in Florida in July(currently in NJ) and will be relocating to Florida next month. My realtor in Florida, a good friend, fixed me up with a man she works with. We've spoke almost every day since beginning of August. I saw him 1 weekend in August and 1 weekend last week. We get along great, have great chemistry. We have been intimate with each other, but are also very playful. He said he we will definitley see each other when I am town again in a couple of weeks.

So, I have not heard from him in several days. I know he is very busy (has his own real estate business). But should I be concerned that he has not called? I think all of my past bad relationships make me concerned that bad things will happen with this guy. I have really been trying to be cool with guys lately, but this guy has my head spinning because I really like him? Should I be concerned, or am I just overeacting. Is it ok for a guy to like you, then not call for days?

Thanks for listening-Teenbean.....

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 10:58am
I wouldn't read too much into this. He knows when you are going to be in town again, and he says he will contact you about getting together then. Don't overthink this situation.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:08am

He may be thinking of this as a casual thing and is just thinking you'll talk when you're next in FL. Or, he may have changed his mind about the whole thing. Or, he might just be busy! There's no way of knowing, unfortunately, unless he tells you.

Did the two of you have any kind of talk about what your respective hopes and expectations for your potential relationship were?

Sheri

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Registered: 07-06-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 1:23pm

Thanks for the feedback! I tend to overthink things too much. He did just leave me a message that he has been crazy busy. So we are playing phone tag.

Northwestwanderer, you bring up a GREAT point! No, we have not spoek about expecations. Question is - when is the right time? I am thinking next time I am town we should discuss.....what do you guys think?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 1:31pm

Well, it works best for me to bring those things up before I sleep with someone, because I tend to get emotionally attached once I've slept with someone so I need to make sure we are on the same page beforehand. It's especially important to me to make sure we are exclusive before we sleep together.

But since you didn't, then yes, the next time you see each other in person would be a great time to talk about those things.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-06-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 3:25pm
Thanks Sheri!