Need some help

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2006
Need some help
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Sun, 05-14-2006 - 9:43pm
Ok...a guy that I have known for about seven years now wants us to try again. The probelm is the first time we were together his ex got in the way. Then later down the road my ex got in the way. Back in jan. I went to visit him to see if we could work at being a couple. However after being there a day he compleatly changed and backed away from me. I just started talk to him again. He said he got scared and pulled away. He said he wants to be with me but I don't know if I should try again. He really hurt me in Jan. My heart says go head and my head is confussed and thinks of what others will think(I know everone is mad at him). So some advice would be nice. Any thoughts or opions?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 12:12am
It appears that neither of you is prepared to be in a relationship. He's got an ex, you got an ex, he backs up, etc. From January to now something has to have happen for him to say he wants to be with you. However, it's doubtful that he's changed in 4 1/2 months unless some type of miracle has happened. I'd not recommend to get involved with this man right away. I'd take it slowly to see if he's true to his words. Date him on a regular basis and get to know him. You've known him for 7 years, but apparently you really don't know him at all.