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| Wed, 10-05-2005 - 11:06pm |
I told this guy how I felt and I for sure thought I would never hear from him again. The conversation we had was very intense. Given the situation we were in I wish I had not told him how I felt. We were at a club and had been drinking, I was not really even buzzed. Still not a good place for a topic about feelings. Well after sat night, I thought for sure I would not hear from him and he called me on a wed morning at 2am. I was not happy about that and did not answer the phone. At the same time I was surprised he called. Blew him off. Well he calls me on friday afternoon and we go out for drinks and watch a movie on friday night. Nothing happened. Very Innocent.
Well, during that week I was upset and wrote him a letter. I wrote exactly what I said to him on that sat night. I mailed it on friday, two hours before he calls. I figured I had scared him off. Well, when i was out with him on friday, i told him he would be expecting a letter and told him I thought I was never gonna see him again. He was understanding. He wanted me to stay with him , but I had to leave to get ready for work. He probably got the letter on sat or mon. We went out to a show on tuesday and he never mentioned he letter to me. We even talked mon night to confirm that we were still going to the show together. IS IT BAD THAT HE DIDN'T MENTION THE LETTER? iS IT A GOOD SIGN THAT WE WENT OUT TOGETHER ON TUES? KNOW THAT I TOLD HIM VERBALLY AND ON PAPER THAT i LIKE HIM. CAN I EVER BRING UP IF WE ARE GONNA BE SERIOUS. I HAVE A FEELING I SHOULD NOT SAY ANYTHING TO HIM, ISHOULD LET HIM BRING UP THE TOPIC WHEN HE IS READY. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME INSIGHT ON HOW HE MAY BE FEELING.
PS. WE HAD A GREAT TIME ON TUESDAY. GOOD CONVERSATION. CALLED HIM WED TO LET HIM KNOW I HAD A GOOD TIME AND TO THANK HIM.
Well, during that week I was upset and wrote him a letter. I wrote exactly what I said to him on that sat night. I mailed it on friday, two hours before he calls. I figured I had scared him off. Well, when i was out with him on friday, i told him he would be expecting a letter and told him I thought I was never gonna see him again. He was understanding. He wanted me to stay with him , but I had to leave to get ready for work. He probably got the letter on sat or mon. We went out to a show on tuesday and he never mentioned he letter to me. We even talked mon night to confirm that we were still going to the show together. IS IT BAD THAT HE DIDN'T MENTION THE LETTER? iS IT A GOOD SIGN THAT WE WENT OUT TOGETHER ON TUES? KNOW THAT I TOLD HIM VERBALLY AND ON PAPER THAT i LIKE HIM. CAN I EVER BRING UP IF WE ARE GONNA BE SERIOUS. I HAVE A FEELING I SHOULD NOT SAY ANYTHING TO HIM, ISHOULD LET HIM BRING UP THE TOPIC WHEN HE IS READY. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME INSIGHT ON HOW HE MAY BE FEELING.
PS. WE HAD A GREAT TIME ON TUESDAY. GOOD CONVERSATION. CALLED HIM WED TO LET HIM KNOW I HAD A GOOD TIME AND TO THANK HIM.

Thanks for your post on my questions. The only difference between your guy and mine is that he has a tendancy to drink alot and then he becomes forgetful. He may not even remember seeing me at the bar on Saturday and I know that the night he would have gotten my note he would have been drunk, it was Monday Night Football.
I hope that everything works out for you and your guy. Do you know that he actually got the letter? I dont know if my guy actually got my letter. But I think not mentioning anything about it would be the best. Give it time and all will work out, I guess. He will say something when he is ready. But my only concern is that I have a few guys that I was seeing before and what if I start seeing them again but in my guys eyes we are actually a couple and he feels that I am cheating on him.
He needs to move and I know of a place so I have discussed this and will call him tonight and let him know. I will not say anything about the letter. I just hope he answers the phone.
Wow. Your situation is a lot like mine. I have been dating this guy for barley a month. It started out fast. We had 3 dates the first week. After which he was calling me his girlfriend. So it seemed the commitment was there. The last couple of weeks things have slowed down. Which I am fine with as I have a tendency to totally fall head over heals for a guy, and I don't remain objective. It turns into a long term bad relationship, because all I listen to is my heart instead of my head. Anyways, we've been out a few times, and things have been good, we have a great time. It seems I am doing all the contacting, but when I call or text he always replies. So he is not totally ignoring me. I don't think he has ever been in an LTR so he may not know exactly what I expect. I am trying to just go with the flow and keep my head on straight.
Tonight I am leaving for a week. He knows I am leaving, but I don't think he ever asked when I was coming back. I am going to fight the urge to contact him when I am gone, and I'll call him when I get back. I've also decided that I unintentionally made him the center of my world. That may be the reason he has backed off. When I get back from my trip I have resolved to do my own thing and if he wants to spend time with me then he will have to conatact me.
I havn't had a conversation with him regarding how he's been because it's barely been a month since we started seeing each other. I do not want to be the type of girl that says what is going on, etc. I'm not that way.
As far as your guy not responding to the letter. I think that is typical. Wed I text my guy that if he needed space just tell me. We went out to dinner that night and he never mentioned it. All of this dating stuff is new to me. I've been in 3 LTR's and we never did the dating thing. Started out as friends and became much more.
I don't think I was very helpful to you, but I wanted to share, and needed to vent. Let us know what happens.
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