Need some insight/input

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Need some insight/input
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 3:47pm

Hi All,

I hope that you all are well. I would like some input on my current situation. I am going on my third date with M on Friday. So far, we haven't kissed he hasn't even tried to hold my hand. I don't think that it has anything to do with a lack of interest on his end, I think that he hasn't tried because he cannot get a clear read on me.

Well, I am confused, I just don't really have the urge to kiss him just yet. This is totally weird for me because usually, if I get to a third, even second date with a guy I definitely have the desire to kiss him by then. I know that I want to continue to date M, I love his company, talking with him, I find him attractive...etc. But when it comes to the thought of kissing him or anything more, I get this awkward feeling. It sort of feels like I don't want to know him in that way...I dunno, maybe a twang of a brotherly type feeling??? This is just a whole new feeling for me and I am not sure how to handle. What if he tries to kiss me on Friday and I don't want to? I sort of feel like I have to being it's the third date and all. If I reject him, what's he going to think then? I do not want to stop dating him.

Well, thanks for any input.

Pers :)

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Registered: 09-24-2005
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 10:01am
pers,
be yourself.
i would get to know this person more. sometimes the best things don't go a 'prescribed' way, the way you have been used to. u should not feel forced to kiss him if you don't feel it yet. that's perhaps meant to come later on, or not at all. it's too soon to tell. but don't feel pressurized.
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Registered: 03-09-2005
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 12:43pm
It might be a good thing. I have had several friends find the guy the are dating not that attracted to. They in turn, seemed to be even more persistent and eventually my friends wound up falling madly in love and getting married :) Good luck!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 12:50pm
well, why not let him kiss you goodnite? you might be pleasantly surprised, if not, then end the evening politely and next time he calls say that you really like him but you have more of a friend vibe. but give it a FAIR chance. Sometimes it's the ones we least expect who makes our toes tingle
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