Need some relastionship help please!

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Need some relastionship help please!
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 8:18pm
Hi everyone,

I lurk here a lot but don't post much but I need some adivce, so I am hoping someone might have some for me. Sorry if this gets long, here is the situation.

My fiance and I have been together for 6 years. Currently we are in college together, taking the same program, Business Management. We have all of our classes together, which this semester is 4.

He comes over to my house in the morning, we go to class together in my car and then he comes back to my house after class, the trouble is we are starting to fight about school and it is affecting our relationship.

For the last two years I have held a 3.8gpa. I study and work hard to get good grades. He has a 2.8 gpa. My grades are very important to me.

Most of the time he would rather play games than do any school work. For English this semester he has not read one of the assignments. He trys to read them right before class, which never works. I don't think he has read any complete assignement yet.

I have read all of them. Wednesday we have a 200 page book due, he has not read any of it, and won't read it. I have read all but maybe 20 pages of it. It has some very graphic animal cruelty in it I canntot read, it makes me ill to even think about it.

I always ask him if he's read, when he is going to read, why he hasn't read but he gets mad and tells me to leave him alone.

I don't want to see him fail. I know he could be a 4.0 student if he put some real effort into it, but instead this weekend he put 16 hours into a game he get Friday night and did not homework.

I want to see him get good grades, and pass so we can graduate and finally start life together.

Our tests are written, you cant just pick A or B and hope you get it right, either you know it or you don't.

So should I just stop saying anything about school and just let him do his own thing and worry about myself? I only say something because I care and I want him to do good, but if I say something he gets mad and it ruins our day.

So what do I do? Any adivce would be great! thanks!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 9:59pm
Hi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 12:50pm
You are not his mother, and nagging him to study puts you in that role. You should think long and hard about marrying a man who prioritizes games over his scholastic achievement because he will behave the same way when it comes to work - you'll end up being the sole breadwinner. Is that what you want?