need something an opinion, advice, etc

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Registered: 09-25-2004
need something an opinion, advice, etc
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Sat, 09-25-2004 - 5:35pm
here goes nothing... i have been friends with this guy for 13-14 yrs he is 2 yrs younger than i and for me that was an issue at one point in my life but it don't no longer bother me. he was in a relationship for 3-4yrs and didn't come around as often as he always did in the past 2 yrs. it wasn't until 2months ago that he started coming around on a daily basis i care for him alot and it wasn't until a week ago that him and her broke up they were having problems for a long time and were kinda separated. now me and him have kissed before and he has told me that he loves me i myself love him as well and we have amitted to how we feel about eachother. but i don't want to be a rebound and this he knows. for the past 2 months we have been together every single day, we've been away on vacation together and we sleep in the same bed almost every night and nothing happens and thats cool because i feel like it is making a stronger bond between the 2 of us because it is something we both agreeded on not doing yet.

here is the twist and where i get confused we have the same friends we both know how we feel about eachother i know he's not ready for anything serious and he knows i don't want to be rebound

we talked and decided that we would see people and i asked if this meant that we aren't gonna give us a try bc i felt that was something i needed to know and he said he don't know that he wants to learn who he is again and that hes gonna take one day at a time.

i don't really agree with the whole seeing other ppl sitsuation but considering the circumstances i feel i need to have patience.

any advice please give

what do you think the out come of this will be
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Registered: 09-08-2004
Sun, 09-26-2004 - 10:37am
This sounds to me like a big mess. Neither one of you knows anything for sure. It sounds like he is clueless about what he wants. If you stay in this relationship, you may get hurt, but it's up to you to evaluate the risk of being involved with him. It seems to me like he is enjoying the comfort of your relationship, but he doesn't give back by committing to anything. I mean it's really up to you what kind of relationship you want with him. It's in your control. Just make sure you are aware that he could be gone tomorrow despite saying "I love you".