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| Sun, 08-15-2004 - 9:54pm |
I am a 28 yr old single mom of a 8 year old and just found out I am pregnant again.
My dilemma is the father to this child and I have been dating only a month. He has made it very clear that he doesn't want another child (already has a 2 year old). He wants me to have an abortion but I won't. He told me last night that he is not sure if he wants to return to his ex and child.
I am confused and want to fight for him but I am scared that he will go back to her and when she finds out about me, she will kick him to the curb and he will come crawling back to me.
I am not concerned about having another child, I just am looking for him to be there for me and this baby.
Should I just let him go or ask him to try to work out things with me?

If you want to keep the baby, that's fine. You know the ropes on single parenting. But don't be a fool. This baby has a right to his/her dad's financial support even though he's not going to have a relationship with him. Get that DNA test taken care of and get his salary garnished. If he wants to get back with his wife/kid, good luck to him...but you don't owe him an abortion to erase his discrepancy while they were separated. I wouldn't flaunt your pregnancy to her either...it's just business, this child has a right as much as their child to his salary, health and dental benefits and a college fund.
I'm sorry that things turned out this way. I do admire your strength. I have to agree with everyone here about getting the DNA test and getting that child support. Too bad if he doesn't want to be with you, you will still have a child to raise, since you do not want to have an abortion. (That is your choice, not his.) If he doesn't want to pay, he will have to sign his rights away, pure and simple.
Sounds like this guy wants the easy way, and that includes the easy way out. I just hope that you don't give this guy a chance, and don't try to "win him back". He said he wanted to get back together with his ex, so let him go, let her take him back. Maybe he'll realize what he's missing, maybe he won't. Doesn't matter, because you don't need someone like that in your life- even if you now have to have him a part of your child's life.
I just hope that your pregnancy goes well. Good luck