need your opinion

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Registered: 06-10-2006
need your opinion
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Sun, 08-27-2006 - 8:37pm

I need your suggestion, I am a little bit confused in these days. sorry my story is long.
I met a guy through a business convention, we don't live in the same city, but since we got back from convention, we have been emailing, talking on the phone and instant message to each other almost eveyday for about 2 months now.
Few days after we met he told me he likes me, and he told me most of his past love stories, plus he married once but divorced about 6 or 7 years ago. Since his failed marriage he has been a BAD man, he had few one night stand and one time even with a woman already married. Last week we talked to each other on the phone he told me he mentally wants to have sex with me. Later on he told me his body has reaction everytime when I am talking to him on the phone. He imagine having sex with me.
Since our chat we talked about lots of things like our family values and opinions for love and marriage and will love last forever but he does not belive any of these. He thinks there is nothing can be last forever. After I told him all these things he said to me "you can't not fall in love with me" and then he said "I can't commite any thing to you" I am not a man for the marriage. He said he does not want to hurt me. Also you could save your virginity with the guy you love, but could have the oral sex with him.

Here is what I need your suggestion, is he just playing with me? or just want to have sex with me? no love involve at all? or he already fall in love with me ? Also I will be visiting the city where he lives should I still meet him? I do know that I like him a lot, but I only meet him once at the convention, but we have been exchanging pictures with each other.

thanks for the suggestions in advance


Thanks for your message,
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: dollhc
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 8:51pm

I think it's pretty clear he just wants to have sex with you, but I guess he'd feel guilty if you lost your virginity to him, so he'll just have oral sex with you. What a guy!!! (That was sarcasm by the way.)

I'm at a loss to understand why you "like" a man who comes across as badly as he does in your post.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: dollhc
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 9:01pm
I don't even understand what you could be confused about. The guy is being pretty clear. He is feeling lust for you. He doesn't want a relationship, he doesn't believe in love or marriage or anything. He doesn't love you, and he never will love you. What exactly is there to like about him? You'd be wasting your time and only ending up feeling hurt after the one-night-stand you're contemplating is over and he's gone.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: dollhc
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 9:02pm

Hon, you need to open your eyes... he has made it very clear that he does not want a commitment, that he doesn't want love. He wants oral sex with you. Period. End of story.


I'm with Sheri here... why do you want to even talk to this guy?


If you want something real, I would say he's not the one and to stop all contact. And above all, DO NOT MEET HIM.