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| Wed, 10-27-2004 - 4:36pm |
I am 22 years old and newly single without any single friends. Therefore on the weekends I find myself with nothing to do. I want to be out at all the trendy places people my age are, but I don't feel comfortable going alone. I am pretty quiet and I have a hard time making friends. I only work with older people and I am afraid at this rate I'll be single forever. Any Advice??

Pianoguy checked to see if there was a profile on you, but there wasn't....so perhaps a little "guesswork" is necessary?
First...at the age of 22...you're AREN'T hopeless! What you might want to do is to try and connect with a few people in your age perimeter? Do this through an extracurricular course...a favorite hobby...volunteer work...there are plenty of options. Don't let your shyness hold you back!
If you ARE 'newly single'---there are probably a few apprehensions on your side about how quickly you should start dating. Give yourself up to a year to get the "old taste" out of your mouth before you get serious about any new flavors! I'm not suggesting that you don't socialize, but don't set your cap for a permanent male replacement! Instead...make a bunch of friends and let them know what a terrific lady you are! Be yourself and don't mislead anybody...because if you give a guy the wrong "impressions"..you confuse us and lose us!
Keep in mind that most long-term relationships develop......when two people can "come together" as supportive FRIENDS! :)
Pianoguy
Is going to A BAR...the only thing that "turns you on?" Doesn't that put a limit on the types of men you're looking for? Independently wealthy men usually don't hang out at a bar...but perhaps you've met a few? No profile on you so I guess anything's possible?
Nobody says you have to "volunteer" for anything....but...while you're helping others out on a project or important charity...you're also capable of "networking" for yourself too!
Pianoguy
i am sorry you feel lonesome, but its great you want to get out thre and meeet people. pls check out this great site www.meetin.org. I learnt about this group right here on IVillage. It is an informal social group, non-dating - free, and you can meet tons of people in your area of different ages, cultures. most are single, several are married and/or in relationships, the premise is not to find mr./ms. right, but just meet other intelligent young people intersted in doing various things. I had a tough time making friends too - after I broke up with my bf - i am 38, and live out in the suburbs where evryone my age is married with kids. Once I joined this group, my social life has become so full and rewarding. The group does various things like eat out, go to bars, hiking, biking, trips etc., and I have found them to be cultured, smart, decent. of course, chances are, in social interactions, there could develop something deeper, even though it is a non-dating group, but that is all the better since everyone there is out to meet people, have fun, not really to impress anyone and find the "One". so there is a level of honesty, like noone makes themselves out to be what they or not! Check it out, you will be very happy, busy and will meet tons of people!!