Nervous with attractive guys

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-29-2004
Nervous with attractive guys
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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 12:09am
Hi

I have this problem of feeling nervous in front of really attractive guys ....specially with ones who are suave or stylish or carry themselves really well ..... specially if I am left alone with them even for say 5 minutes it really gets on me and it really shows on my face and the way I talk that I am nervous. Like in situations where I am sitting right acorss them in a restaurant etc, it freaks me out. This happens even though I would have never been thinking of them.

Surprisingly otherwise I also have a lot of guys as friends with whom I am really comfortable ... and with them or otherwise with all other people I am generally a pretty chirpy extrovert buoyant person.

Can anyone suggest how I can get over this, is really embarassing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2004
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 12:45am
Hmmm...interesting dilemma. I say just go with it. It's part of who you are. You could mention you get a little nervous when you meet an interesting man. Some lucky man might find it endearing. When I was younger, I would get red blotches all over my neck and chest when I met a man I was very attracted to. I was in a wonderful relationship for 6 years with a guy that gave me splotches! Take it as a sign that you might have a connection. You're having a physical reaction. That could be chemistry! If you think of it that way, maybe you won't be so selfconcious about it.

Good luck!

Sue