never had this one come up before....

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never had this one come up before....
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 11:02am
I went out on a first date with this guy and in the course of the conversation he admitted to me that over the past 2 years he's spent money he should have been saving on "females." This is a major turnoff for me and I can't stop thinking about it. Otherwise, we had a decent time. I don't want to be judgemental but that is really something I don't agree with and makes me wonder what kind of guy he really is. Any advice?

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:37pm
What bothers you about it? I can see several different ways it could turn you off, but without knowing which particular way it turned YOU off, it's hard to answer.

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:39pm

Did he mean prostitutes? As Vexer said, without knowing exactly what he meant, it's hard to know how to take his comment.

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:47pm
LOL - I didn't quite go there but I can see that. I assumed that she meant that she was turned off because maybe 1) he implied that he'd "wasted" all this money on dating women and nothing came of it and instead he could have been saving it 2) she was offended by the "females" (since it was in quotes) - maybe she thought he should say women, ladies, or something 3) he was talking about other women he'd dated, 4) he was not financially responsible and wastes money... on and on but maybe prostitutes too!

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:51pm
I meant prostitutes.
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:08pm
OK then! Yes, that is a turnoff and I would not want to go there. You don't have to explain it or anything - it's a personal preference if you don't want to hang out with a guy that has been spending too much money on prostitutes. It's not judgemental, it's your prerogative.

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:37pm

Ok, in that case, I personally would "next!" the guy--someone who frequents prostitutes isn't going to be someone I'm compatible with. That to me is a reflection of his character and his attitude towards women.

Sheri

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:53pm
He sounds angry about it. I would be careful with this one. If "females" bother him because he feels like he is being sucked dry, then maybe he has had too many bad first dates because he keeps venting about it to a "female".
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 2:03pm
Oh, I forgot, did he actually say "prostitutes"? If he did, then forget him.
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 4:47pm

<< I went out on a first date with this guy and in the course of the conversation he admitted to me that over the past 2 years he's spent money he should have been saving on "females.">>

Whoa now, did he actually say he should have been saving on prostitutes? Or did he say females?

If he said prostitutues, well obviously, NEXT!

But, if he said he shoudl have been saving on females ... while its kind of a weird thing to say, I'd take it as perhaps he newly back in the dating game and recognizing that dating is/can be expensive. Which still isn't a very P.C. thing to say ... but, it's hardly the same as saving money for hookers!

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 9:23pm
he said that he hasn't saved any money because his spare money he used on prostitutes. Thanks for all the comments. I decided to nix a second date.

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